Sharing & Caring With Friends

A Friend For All Seasons

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It is often more fun to be a friend through the joyful seasons of life, but sometimes we need our friends the most when in seasons of pain or sorrow.  

Sometimes life gets the best of us with difficult times, challenges and seasons. This is what we call “life”, and it happens to all of us – there is no escaping it.  When you know that a friend is hurting, and going through a crisis, I would suggest calling them up and offering to meet them for coffee or lunch.  Be a true friend – not just in happy, fun times.  Be a friend for all seasons. Sometimes, truly, I have missed the mark with this, and I have felt bad afterwards.  As I get older, I realize just how precious life can be and how important it is to be there for people when they are going through a difficult time or a crisis.  After all, “life isn’t always a bowl of cherries.”  

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When you talk with your friend who is going through this difficult season in her life, let her share her heart! Don’t talk – just listen!  She probably just needs a shoulder to cry on and someone to lean on. Ask her how you can help in practical ways, too – maybe you could watch her young kids for her, so she can get out for a bit, bless her with a grocery store gift card or small cash gift (whatever you can afford) if they are in a financial crisis, or take her to a funny movie if she tells you she just needs a good laugh.  

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If your friend is going through a crisis – maybe a death of a parent, a marriage breakup, a loss of a job, problems keeping up with the mortgage or bills, be sure to follow up with her – a call, a simple text or two, and maybe an e-mail or drop her a sweet card; she will be glad to know she has someone in her corner who she can rely on, and who is providing emotional support.  

And above all else – pray, pray pray for her and her situation.  Tell her you are praying and mean it!  Put “sticky” reminders on your work station or on the refrigerator – so you can pray for her several times a day.  

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These are just a few of the simple gestures some of my friends have done for me during one of those tough seasons.  I have gotten phone calls or texts at just the right moment from just the right friend… who made my day by reaching out to me!  They made me feel like I could survive another day, another season through my difficult journey.  Many of my dear friends have enriched my life so much, and I don’t know where I would be today without them. 

Remember all the fun times and happy moments with your friends, too!  I feel like life is “cyclical” and thank goodness, right?  I have fond and wonderful memories of my dearest friends.  

I recall when I was pregnant with our 2nd baby (over 23 years ago) another friend in the office, Kristy, was pregnant at the same time as me.  The two of us, plus my dear friend, Andrea, would go out to lunch several times a week and one time “to cut back our consumption of food”, we got an assortment of “appetizers” and ended up eating probably more than a five course meal.  We would laugh, giggle and ….. eat.  I remember, Andrea, would say later, “I gained 10 pounds while those two were pregnant, and I wasn’t even pregnant”!!!!   I have such fond memories of those times. 

I also recall going to the movies one time with my friend, Lori, and the movie had started already so the theater was dark.  For some reason, we were already in a silly mood.  Lori was in front of me, and I couldn’t see her.  I tripped on the back of her heels, but thankfully we didn’t fall.   That just seemed to spin us into the “giggles cycle”, and we were so loud with laughing trying to find a seat, we were fortunate the movie manager didn’t kick us out!  (I love to laugh).  

And, I have such fond memories of going to concerts in downtown Jacksonville to see “Cher”, “Elton John”, “Chicago” and more “oldies bands” with my realtor friends several years back.  We would all chip in and rent a limousine, and it was lots and lots of fun!  I don’t know which I enjoyed more – our fun ride in the limousine or the concerts! 

My dear friend, Pam, is such a fabulous cook and has girls’ lunches several times a year for my friends and me.  We enjoy the fellowship and the food!  I have fond memories of Ladies’ Bible Studies in the past with friends, matinee movies with my dear former next-door neighbor, Jeanette, and wonderful lunches and dinners and day trips with lots of other friends.   

Friends refresh my soul and really are the “flowers of life”.   

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Just be there for those close to you – be a true friend in every season.  Remember, they will do the same for you in your time of need!

 

Your friend~

~Clare

 

Author
Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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16 Comments

  • Michele says:

    Such a great reminder to listen, love and pray. It’s so tempting for me to try and “fix” everything, but sometimes–often, what we need is just someone who will listen with love and we always need prayer! I’ve been so blessed with friends who have done this for me and it is such a gift when we love one another in this way! Thanks for this great reminder on true friendship!

    • Clare says:

      I want to try to fix everything too! I think that’s probably a natural response! I need to learn to be still and LISTEN more! I’m glad you stopped in Michele – thanks for your thoughts and comments! 🙂

  • Mim says:

    This is nice. In my years as a mom, I have had 2 significant friendships and 2 other friends who live 1+ hours from me that we text/fb but don’t visit often if ever. I am currently in a season with “no” friends, apart from people on fb (and the 2 that live 1+ hours from me), but this is a nice reminder to be a blessing to someone else who may be going through a tough time, because that is what friendship is all about- being there.

    • Clare says:

      Well, you seem content, Mim to not have some of your friends close by – I am still in touch with some of my dearest friends who are now out of state! Friendship is about being there when someone is having a hard time – and I often need to do better in that area! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • cindy c says:

    Aww, great post. Good reminder to us all. Friends can be a great help when you’re going through a rough time! Inspiring article!

    http://www.HometownQueenBee.blogspot.com 🙂

  • This is a good reminder. It’s so easy to fall into a habit of thinking I’m too busy! I have too many things on my plate right now! I don’t have time for this! But you are right, it is important to stay friend to those close to you and be there for them.

    • Clare says:

      We do all get busy – busy for getting together with family and friends and those we love. I try to be there for my friends, but I often fall short – I think we all need to be reminded of this, truly!

  • andi says:

    and Jesus is the friend that “sticketh closer than a brother” 😀

  • Dee Jordan says:

    When those times happen in our lives, we know who our true friends are because they bring the sunshine into our lives that keeps us keeping on – one step at a time, one moment to the next, and one prayer to our dear Lord at a time. You are right about listening to that friend in need and those are the friends that we hold close for life, A cup of coffee, a quick call, or dinner leave footprints on our hearts for life.

    • Clare says:

      HI Dee – you are such a wonderful example of “true friendship” for me! You are so thoughtful and generous, always! And as you mentioned, it is the simple things – a quick phone call, text, card or a cup of coffee together that makes such a difference in a person’s life! Of course – sure wish you lived closer sweet friend! Thanks for your comments! 🙂

  • Cori says:

    friendships are the best and I try my best to reciprocate the love they share when I need it, to them when they need it! Friendship is a constant evolving cycle!

    • Clare says:

      I know, friendships are the best, Cori! I sure don’t know what I would do without my friends! And friendship is a constant evolving cycle – I’ve got many different types of women of all ages dear to me – keeps life interesting that’s for sure! Thanks for your thoughts! Blessings! 🙂

  • Pam says:

    Friends are so important in life! Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver & the other is gold!

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