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CH-CH-CH-CH-CHANGES – Part II

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The one constant in life is, ironically, CHANGE ... but most of the time – regardless of it being a constant – change is hard.   I really, really wish it was easier.  And as I have already stated, “the older I get, the harder it gets.” So much of life is out of our control.  Change is everywhere.  You have probably heard the saying, “Embrace change.”  For me, the great challenge is EMBRACING the changes! 

Over the last few years, I had to figure out how to LIVE without my parents after they died 7 months apart.  Mom and Dad were my everything and a daily constant in my life.  Sadness, anxiety, nostalgia and terrible grief are just some of the feelings I experienced and do still experience.  I didn’t think I would “survive” the grief period… I mean how long could it be?  Adjusting was a gradual thing, and it was hard; a day-by-day struggle.  I wish I could have waved a “magic wand” and ADJUSTED to my life without them, but it took time, and it still does.  I wanted to “rush” the process which just wasn’t possible.  Being in “transition” is often difficult.  We feel like we haven’t “arrived” yet.

Some things I have contemplated on change:

  • Don’t blame yourself if you made a “bad” choice leading to one of those “very, very” difficult changes. (Extremely important if you find that the particular change is quite overwhelming and devastating).  Move on, and try to make the best of a bad situation.  Don’t be self-critical, or you will get “stuck.”  Try not to continue to beat yourself over the head with what you “should have” or “could have” done because the truth remains the difficult change has already happened. 
  • Change forces us to “reevaluate” our lives. And in “reevaluating” our lives, hopefully we also examine our goals and our future.   So it’s not always a BAD thing, just a NEW thing to get used to.  Keep moving forward.  Don’t stop.  Try not to over think it.    
  • Look at change as a continuous learning process. Change is the inevitable, a “constant” in our lives.  When we accept change (and believe me I am the WORST OFFENDER), we keep learning new things along the way – in areas of parenting, relationships, self-care, and many other areas.

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”  (Ecclesiastes 3:1 ESV) 

 

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If you are going through a change in your life, you are probably not alone.  Take a deep breath, and take it moment-by-moment, day by day.  You will get through this, but adjusting to change can often be a slow process.  I like to think that change is God’s way of getting me ready for the next thing He has planned for me.  Somehow, thinking of change in this way, makes me feel a little less overwhelmed.

Blessing!

~ Clare

 

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Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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16 Comments

  • This is a very inspiring post. I know I have to constantly remind myself that everything has a season and won’t last always. Embrace the moment of growth and take step by step. Thanks for writing this.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Denishia for your kind words – and thank goodness, right, that everything has a “season”?  Taking it moment by moment and step by step like you mentioned is the way to go!  🙂  🙂

  • It really is ironic that change, though constant and to be expected still takes us wildly by surprise. I definitely have a hard time adjusting as well. Thanks for the tips!

  • Some great points about change. I’m personally not a big fan of it!! 😉  But it does come and I’ve learned that sometimes it’s a much needed thing in my life.  Thanks for the tips!

  • Amy Pike says:

    Being a mama and daddy’s girl, I hurt for you!  I’m so sorry about your loss.  I also have a really hard time with ch-ch-change.  I recently went to a seminar called “Change and Transition.”  It was very eye-opening that the wonderful inventions that we now enjoy and use would not be here without some kind of change.  Thanks for this post and the great points you have made.

  • Mary Collins says:

    First, I want to express my sympathy in regards to the loss of your parents. I can only imagine what that must be like. I loss my father 7 years ago and it still hurts when I think about him. Thank God I still have my mom. My life is currently in transition as you say, so I know of what you speak. I pray a whole lot and take it day by day. So my friend, continue to take it day by day.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Mary – I appreciate your kind words – they were ready to go home to the Lord (but the rest of us that loved them both so much here are never ready to say goodbye)!   We all must take it day by day – those are words of wisdom – thanks for sharing!

  • Chris Carter says:

    I’m so sorry about your doubly huge loss!  What a hard change to navigate through.  I love your perspective on it, Claire.  God prepares us for ‘the next’ turn in many ways.  Change is a tough thing for us all, but we are led toward new beginnings through each shift in our path.  And often there are blessings awaiting us there.  <3

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Chris – yes – each seasons in our life do bring all kinds of things – changes and blessings in disguise!  Thanks for your comments!

  • Carol says:

    Clare, it is hard to believe they are still gone.  What we wouldn’t do for just one more day.  Well, one day we will have all the days that we want forever and ever. Till then, chin up!!! They showed us how to live and they would be proud of you!

    • Clare says:

      You’re ALWAYS there for me sissy!!!!! We miss them both so much!  They did show us how to live – !!!!  🙂  🙂

       

  • Laura says:

    Great words here explaining why change cannot possibly be all bad. I try to remember that God is working behind the scenes for my own good. I may not understand why things happen, but I can trust that His plans are always better than my own. Wishing you continued progress as you try to embrace the change.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for your kind words, Laura – we could all use the reminder for sure that God is working behind the scenes and His plans are better than ours!

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