David Bowie sang,
Turn and face the strange
Pretty soon now you’re gonna’ get older
Time may change me
But I can’t trace time
I said that time may change me
But I can’t trace time
Well I ask you, WHY? Why do we have to face the changes? Why can’t we just pull the covers over our head, or click our heels three times like Dorothy did in the Wizard of Oz and make all these changes disappear? Not that simple. And we, as humans, are creatures of habit, right? We often are moved out of our “comfort zone” which is difficult for most of us. I know change is difficult for me.
When I was younger, I adjusted better to changes (or at least that is what I told myself). What is it about growing OLDER that complicates adjusting to change? I have learned with all change – IT TAKES TIME. That saying “Rome wasn’t built in a day” seems particularly fitting.
I mean, changes are tough. And as we move along in our lives, we experience all sorts of changes – some by our own choice, and some not. Saying goodbye to a close friend, losing a parent and trying to figure out how you are going to live without them, seeing a child go away to college, losing a job. Other changes include finding yourself newly married – or maybe newly single, having children and maybe having grandchildren.
Maybe I started with the changes we don’t look forward to, so I could spend time talking about the types of changes we love. Change isn’t all bad. Some changes are actually fun … we love those, don’t we? A new friendship emerges with a sweet woman who just joined your church, a new job has turned into one you just love, or a house you just moved into has become a home. Maybe your family has started to grown – a new son or daughter-in-law or a new baby or grand baby.
Why can’t they all be GOOD changes? And why can’t they all be fun changes? I know, I know … but this is reality, right? Time to go back and talk about why we have to experience those other types of changes that most of us see may be necessary but not necessarily fun.
I have contemplated this many times, and I feel like life is mostly cyclical. My life has gone in cycles… .good…. great…. mediocre …. crises… difficult… and there have been times I felt like I just could not or would not get out of the uncomfortable (and sometimes downright painful) changes.
So… keeping with the theme of “changes” … check back later in the week for PART II.