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Hi Friends – I am glad you are here for Coffee With Clare – every Thursday!  

Dear Clare:

My name is Sarah.  I am a 24 years old, single young lady who just got my degree in marketing and landed a great new job in Dallas, Texas.  I  moved from a small town in Georgia, and I really love my new job.  My problem is, I just don’t know how to make friends, in a big city like this.  Everyone I work with is nice; however, 90% of them are “married” or “older.”  How can I meet interesting and new people my age in this town?  Please don’t tell me dating sites!  I am not looking for a boyfriend – I am looking for some new friends to socialize with, go to dinner with and check out the sights in Dallas!

Signed – Small town girl in Dallas

P.S. I love this city so far and can’t wait to have friends to “explore” with!

 

Dallas, Texas cityscape with blue sky at twilight, Texas

 

Answer:     

Hi Sarah –

I would start by asking some of your new colleagues (even though of course you said they were older or married) if they know what young people do for fun in the city.  They should offer you at least a place to start.  You could also join some community activities, take a local class (in photography, pottery or whatever your interest is), join a church, and /or a club with activities that may interest you.  Look into some local social networks – these are people like you who will also be looking to meet new people. 

 

Once you have joined one of the above, you may want to find a nice person after you have talked to them a few times and invite them to do an activity with you.  If they are more familiar with Dallas, ask them what they would like to do and then go for it.   Make sure you give it some time, but I bet you will be able to start making new friends quicker than you thought!  One more thing – volunteering is a great way to help others, feel good about doing something for someone else, and meet really nice people….

Readers:  I welcome your comments and suggestions for this young lady!

 

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I would love to hear from you!  I invite you to email your questions, problems and “life challenges” directly to me at: lifeainteasystreet@gmail.com 

~Clare

 

Author
Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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26 Comments

  • Great question! I’d just start doing things you like to do and take it from there, you’re bound to meet some new people. Good luck!!

    • Clare says:

      So true, Swell Conditions! Starting with things we personally likes to do – usually leads to making friendships with people with like interests! Thanks so much for those thoughts!

  • Candy says:

    Church is a great place to meet new friends, many time they have single groups to do things with .

    • Clare says:

      Thanks, Candy – yes, lots of churches have single groups and/or special groups that are for certain age groups! That would be a great way also to make friends!

  • Bette Childress says:

    Dallas is so big and over whelming. Being in the Fort Worth area some of the things here that I see that she may check into is Rotary International. There are groups all over the city. Then check with the chamber of commerce. Most chambers have Business After Hours where local executives meet to socialize and network with other people in your area. Another good club to check out is the Junior League. Just thought I would throw some things out there that I know of here in Texas.

    • Clare says:

      Bette – thanks so much for your great list of things to check out and things to do – that’s right – you are in Texas!!!!! So you have very, very specific knowledge – which is a great help! Yes, chamber get togethers – that’s a great way for young professionals to meet up! 🙂

  • These are really good suggestions. It’s hard to remember that if we are looking to establish new friends, we have to be the ones who reach out.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks, Carol. It is so true we often have to reach out first. I know when I am new to something or a new area – that can be a bit overwhelming but such a great reminder!

  • Karen Dowd-Hansen says:

    All good suggestions! What about your older coworkers? I bet some of them either have children your age or maybe neighbors that they know and trust ☺️

    • Clare says:

      So good, Karen. The co-workers who have family members, kids their age, etc. – that’s also such a great suggestion! This helps! 🙂

  • I agree church is a great place to make new friends..I heard Dallas is a great place to live,!

    Valerie

    • Clare says:

      Yes, Valerie – I agree church can be a good place to make friends. I myself have never been to Dallas and have heard some great things about it, too! Thanks for stopping in and sharing!

  • Pam says:

    Working out at the YMCA or a Fitness Center is one way to make friends. Volunteer for things that interest you. Join a running club even if you don’t run, you can start by walking and meet some people that way, plus get in shape at the same time. There are so many clubs and groups available these days. Take a class at a local college. I would go online and see what’s available in your area. But I agree with previous suggestions also. All good ideas.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Pam! Such great ideas – working out can be one of the ways for sure… and a running club (and I know some cities have “walking clubs” if you don’t run). There are so many clubs and groups. Thanks for sharing such great suggestions!

  • This is such good advice! It’s hard making friends when you’re an adult and in a new place, but it’s totally possible!

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Kelly and you – our readers – gave such thoughtful and wonderful suggestions, too! It is a little scary in the beginning to be in a new “big” town or city and not really know anyone…. but it is possible to make friends!

  • andi says:

    all the right advice – oh i don’t even remember when i was 24….

  • Alicia says:

    I would definitely suggest to join activities, like you had mentioned. It can definitely be hard to make new friends at a new job and especially in a new city. I would start making friends with the people at work and then possibly they may have children her age. Local colleges also may have some workout classes and activities that the community can join in on which could help.

    • Clare says:

      Right, great ideas – family and friends of her new co-workers! That’s a great suggestion. And community classes and activities like you suggested! Thanks so much! 🙂

  • Rhiannon S says:

    I think those are great suggestions! It is always hard to come into a new city and a new job, but if you test the waters at work some you may find connections. Even though some co-workers may be married they could have or know unmarried friends that are part of the social scene. Good luck 🙂

  • Becki S says:

    I empathize even as a married young woman, it’s so much harder to make friends once you are out of school. Our gym has been extremely beneficial for this and I also have attended a few meet ups from meetup.com. They have groups for anything and everything you could be interested in.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for the gym suggestion, too. That’s a great suggestion. And thankfully these days there are activities and groups for all ages! 🙂

  • Lorraine says:

    I’m not a people person and don’t get many opportunities to meet other people. My anxiety affects my social opportunities but those are some good suggestions.

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