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I was raised in a Catholic household, and my mother is a devout Catholic. When in my teens, I did not like the teachings of that religion and chose not to become a confirmed Catholic.
With the exception of weddings and funerals, I have not been in a church to worship for over 25 years. I am now in my 40’s and have school age children who do not have any religious affiliation. I feel I am missing something and am envious of my friends who talk so passionately about God. I also feel I am doing a disservice to my children for not letting them experience faith. But, I don’t want to ram it down their throats as I felt was done to me.
My question is, how do you find what religion is right for you? As a Catholic, you basically had to be born into it. I know little to nothing about other religions and am not sure where to start. Any advice?
Looking for Faith
Dear Looking for Faith:
I am a Christian woman who loves the Lord, and who believes the Bible is the infallible Word of God and that the Son of God, Jesus, died for our sins. The feelings that you describe are well documented among those who are searching for a relationship with the Lord.
God has carried me through the good times… and not so good times…. I have had close family losses, difficulties raising kids and teenagers, a cancer diagnosis, actually 2 cancer diagnoses because then my husband had cancer, losing my parents 7 months apart who were my world, almost losing our home, financial crises, job losses and of course … lots and lots of unmentionable occurrences.
I would like to share a few passages from the Bible, that I find helpful:
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16; NIV)
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9; NIV)
“That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth until righteousness; and with the mouth confessions is made until salvation.” (Romans 10:9-10; KJB)
Accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior is the best decision you could ever make.
I believe that that if you pray to the Lord and accept Him as your personal savior and believe in your heart that He is Lord, you can be saved and walk with Him the rest of your days… and have the comfort of knowing that Jesus is right there with you by your side, day in and day out. But, God has given us free will, and so this step in faith is your free choice and yours alone. If you choose to move forward with a personal relationship with the Lord, and I certainly hope you do, here is a sample prayer for salvation:
“Lord Jesus, I believe you are the Son of God. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask you in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior.”
Next, I would suggest you seek out a good Bible-based church. And, I am certainly not proposing or directing you to any type of specific “denomination”. For assistance with this, please check out “Focus on the Family” website and this article:
And also http://www.churchfinder.com/ may be able to assist with you seeking a church in your area.
Because you also mentioned your children, you will want to get into a church that has a wonderful children’s program or youth group, depending on the age of your kids. Believe me, you will know whether or not your kids like the church and the program!
As a woman who was raised Catholic and went through eight years of parochial school, I believe I do understand where you are coming from. The important thing now is not letting the past keep you, and your children, from a relationship with the Lord.
Even with all my wrong decisions and mistakes (which still occur daily), God is the Lord of my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Please let us know what you decide to do, and God Bless You!
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Disclosure: I do not profess to be any kind of a Bible scholar; I am not a preacher or ordained Pastor, or any kind of religious expert. I am a Christian woman who loves to write and help people. I think women need encouragement and help in lots of areas of their lives these days. That is why I write my blog!