Hi and welcome back to Coffee with Clare everything Thursday! I hope you had a wonderful holiday season!
My problem, Clare, is our neighbors next door. We are in a small comfortable home, but our yards and homes are close together. My next door neighbor, Sue, and her obnoxious husband, Rob, have 4 kids all under the age of 12. They leave trails of their toys all over our front yard, have about 3 of their outside cats loose in our property to include peeing on our front garden (may I add right next to the front porch where I sit and can smell the disgusting cat pee) and park their van and work trucks often in front of our house – up on our curb onto part of our property. We like Sue and have asked her often about helping us with these issues, but we can’t stand Rob. We don’t want trouble with them – especially since they live right up under us – but what can we do.
Signed – Frustrated in Georgia.
These types of situations can be so, so annoying because your home should be your castle! Obviously your neighbors just don’t get it – and chances are they may never “get it.” I would try to be as nice as you can and continue to work on building a rapport with them. Don’t be accusing or judgmental …. don’t try to pin them down when they are running out the door at 7:30 a.m. heading to work because they won’t have time. When you see them outside after work, or maybe on the weekend, ask them if you can chat for a few minutes. Kindly, and gently, state some of these things that could easily be corrected, but, again, don’t accuse or start out by saying “You are making me crazy by doing….” – blah blah – which although IT IS TRUE this isn’t the way to solve anything. You may also ask the children to collect their toys left in your yard, and you can ask your neighbors to not park in front of your house, so there is room for your vehicles – and that of your guests. To send a stronger message, you may elect to collect the toys yourself and place the toys in front of their door each evening … a little more confrontational, but they may get the hint.
If none of the suggestions work, you may have to take stronger measures by getting authorities (police, city) involved or even use a mediator for these types of matters. But, truly, if it were me, I would not go this route, because unless they are planning to move soon, you may find it easier to live with some inconveniences than with hostile neighbors!
One additional thought regarding the cats – you may want to check your local pet store chain (Pet Smart, Petco, etc.) as they carry products that “scare” and “deter” cats from “doing their business” in undesired areas. I hear these can be quite effective – yet safe for people and animals.
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