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I have recently gotten divorced after being married for over 26 years. Our children are ages 22 and 24, and my ex-husband keeps telling our kids and my parents and other family members all sorts of lies – getting the kids upset and my parents upset. They don’t know who to believe, and we have been divorced now for well over a year, and he keeps running his mouth and saying bad things about me. (I know this is his “payback” for me divorcing him.) What can I do about it? I am sick to death about the lies he is spreading about me!
Fed Up with the “fall-out”
Dear Fed Up:
Well, this is a very difficult situation, and I am sure it is very frustrating. I would keep reinforcing to your kids and your family that “there are two sides to every story” and reinforce the truth, without “bad mouthing” your ex to your family, especially to your kids. I think over time, the truth will be revealed, but this is one of those things that is going to take some time. I wouldn’t waste time and energy trying to confront your ex-husband directly. Doing so may actually just reinforce his bad behavior. Calmly keep reinforcing your truths to your family – I bet over time, this too shall pass, and your family will realize who was telling the truth. Hang in there, his destructive behavior will probably decrease over time, especially if he gets less and less reaction from your kids and your own parents!
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