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I am a working mom with two grade school age children, and I am a mess!! Sammy is 10 years old and Beth is 8 years old. Sammy plays soccer and his practices are two times a week late afternoon, and Beth takes tap and ballet dance and has evening classes. My life is nuts right now. Sometimes I have to leave work about an hour earlier than usual to run out the door to pick up one of the kids from afterschool care and bring them to practice. I make up the time at work, but I can tell my supervisor is getting frustrated with me. In addition to this, my husband goes out of town for his job Monday through Thursday night. I think I used to be an “organized” woman but not anymore… I don’t know which end is up, and last Saturday I brought Sammy to the wrong soccer field… by the time we got to the right field, the game had already begun and the coach wouldn’t let him play the whole first half. What is a mother to do? I am frazzled, and I need help!
Signed – Crazy Soccer Mom in Colorado
Dear Crazy Soccer Mom:
Frankly, you need to start from scratch and get organized before you do another thing! http://www.homeconvenience.com/index.php has a wonderful online calendar and other assistance. This is worth checking into. If you decide to go another route with a planner – I would highly suggest you utilize one immediately! Post a huge monthly planner on the refrigerator as well as keep one as an app on your phone, or keep a paper calendar! Get organized, and go over it in detail every Sunday before the school week begins. You must stay ahead of this or your life will continue to be unmanageable!
Now to deal with all the “carting the kids every which way”. Have you thought about talking with other neighbors or friends about “carpooling”? If that is not doable, can you afford to hire a dependable babysitter to help out in the late afternoons/early evenings to help with soccer and dance pickups and drop offs, and to help through the dinner time? Do you have any immediate family in the area? I would ask for assistance if so. You don’t have to try to be “Supermom” – that’s just not possible, and you want to be happy in your life – not just “surviving” it. Elicit your husband’s help in all ways possible when he is home. With any “down time” he has when he is not traveling, get him to jump in with the carpooling, cooking, cleaning and daily chores!
You had not mentioned how you are managing your household chores and cooking while your husband is away. I would suggest you cook on Sundays and freeze at least several meals for the week. Possibly also get a large family-size crockpot which would be good for at least two meals. Check out coupons from local restaurants to get some affordable takeout at least once a week to give yourself a break. Get everything organized for the kids, and you, the evening before – such as laying clothes out, packing lunches, and leaving yourself a list, so you don’t forget anything in the morning. Get your children involved, too!. Make sure they have a “list of chores” – such as making their beds, and picking up their toys every night.
And, after all of the above, frankly you are going to need some “down” time. I would suggest you and your husband get some date time on the weekends. You also need some rest and relaxation for yourself, as well, such as getting a pedicure, going out to lunch with your girlfriends or taking a nice long drive alone with the windows down.
You need some help. To get in front of this, first you need to get yourself organized. Plus some of these absences from work are affecting your job, so please try to get organized. It may take some time but a little planning ahead will help in big ways! Last, consider limiting or cutting down on the number of kids activities. Sometimes the healthiest families are the ones who simplify schedules to spend more time just having unscheduled family time.
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Here’s wishing you some peace, rest, and more organized days ahead.
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