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I am a 32-year old woman who is in a serious relationship with Ron. We’ve been together for 6 years now and have been living together for 4 years. My situation – I am ready to get married, but apparently Ron isn’t ready for that commitment. Ron was married briefly very young, and let’s just say it ended badly. I, on the other hand, love Ron and want to spend the rest of my life with him – that is, get married and start a family.
I have had heart to heart talks with Ron, telling him I am concerned that my biological clock is ticking. Ron has answered stating he likes things the way they are and is not sure if he is ready for that kind of commitment. What should I do? I don’t know whether I should devote more time to this relationship or cut my losses, and break it off now. I truly love him which makes this decision even more difficult. Please help!
Should I Stay or Should I Go
Dear Should I Stay or Should I Go:
Sit down with Ron, away from your home, and make sure he knows you are serious this time. Tell him how you feel, but don’t whine; just point out you want to move forward with getting married and starting a family. If he is simply not ready, or never plans to marry you, I am sure that you would rather know this sooner rather than later. So, you must ask yourself, should I risk possibly spending another year (or three years, or many more) sitting around waiting for him?
It really comes down to how important is being married and having children to you. Only you can determine that. Once you pin him down without smothering him, draw a line in the sand and give yourself a “time period” to see if he changes his mind. I would suggest you keep this “deadline” to yourself and stick to it. If it is six months, or a year’s time and you don’t see any changes, or he is still firm on not getting married or starting a family, it is probably time to move on – as hard as this may be.
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