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I live with my boyfriend, Danny, and we just moved into a bigger apartment. I love dogs, and I really want one. I have been “whining” about it since we started living together two years ago. Danny isn’t wild about pets, but he said he would “consider” it when we moved into a bigger place. This apartment complex does allow for pets, but now Danny doesn’t want one. He feels like a dog is going to be too much work, tie us down, and make the apartment smell. I grew up with dogs and love them! What can I do? I want a dog… and I want one now!
Signed – In the Doghouse
Dear In the Doghouse:
Take your time and don’t nag! See if Danny will visit the local “pound” and pet stores with you and discuss what breeds and types of dogs you really want. Do your research – learn about the breeds you like the best – as well as the pros and cons of each breed.
And maybe consider adopting an older dog who is already fixed and potty trained. This may be the way to go.
Realistically, decide what to do with the dog all day while you are at work. Leave him in a blocked off area? If he goes outside, do you have a fence and shelter? Or will you need to walk your dog on a leash every time it needs to go outside? Is “doggy daycare” an option while you are working? Is there a reputable dog boarding place for when you and Danny want to travel without Fido? Check into all of this before your next “dog conversation” with Danny.
I would not get a dog until Danny is on the same page with you. If you get a dog while he is still adamantly against it, then that is just going to cause resentment and will probably negatively affect your relationship for sure. And, it is possible he may never want a dog, too. But just bringing home “Bud”, a big Irish Setter, without any warning to Danny would not be the way to go – it would be unfair to Danny as well as the dog!
A final thought, you might get Danny to agree to pet sit a friend’s dog for a weekend and see how it goes. Just make sure that you choose a friend with a well-behaved dog. This will give both you and Danny an idea of what dog ownership looks like for your relationship.
Readers – any suggestions for “In The Doghouse”?
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