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Do You Need Some More Rest & Relaxation? (Part I)

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Sometimes I just get so burned out with all the craziness of the days and weeks, I just hit a brick wall. Some days, I’m just too overtired and need to unwind, “chill” and relax!  I know we women usually take on too much and are often so overloaded but we just don’t take the time to “diffuse”.  And, it doesn’t matter whether we are single, married, with children or not – I think many of us women are just simply not getting enough rest!

Relaxation and rest reduce stress – and gives us the restorative power to carry on, to get refreshed.  But here again – I believe methods of relaxation are different strokes for different folks!  We, women, get our rest in different ways.  I checked in with some other women, and they shared what works for them – how they “diffuse” and get some good ol’ rest and relaxation.




I spoke to my dear friend, Mary, who is middle aged and very active with her family and grandchildren.  Mary takes walks frequently in her neighborhood and enjoys the beautiful countryside, trees and views.  Mary says, “I find that very restorative.”

Mary is also a fabulous cook (believe me, I know this firsthand)!  Mary shares, “Cooking grounds me.  I plan a menu around my family or guests and then I set the table that will frame my meal… basic white, then I have fun with accent pieces and flowers.  I put on some music and cook my heart out!  I have some classic recipes I use, but I also love creating recipes, too.”


Beautiful holiday Easter table setting


My youngest daughter, Caitlin, 23 years old, besides exercise and working out at the gym, shares that she “stretches” and does “Yoga” regularly. Caitlin shares:

“Yoga clears my mind and gives me strength.”

“Stretching promotes muscle growth, relieves aches and pains. And, I love to do it after a long day at work.”




My sweet co-worker, Drema, shares:

“After the tragic loss of my 20 year old daughter, the way I try to find peace and relaxation is spending time with my wonderful friends, going fishing out on our boat, and enjoying the beauty of nature.  I love to go out in the canals in Vilano Beach (Florida) or in the St. Johns River (Jacksonville, Florida).”  


Fishing boat at sunset


I, myself, love to just sit outside at night and just breathe.  It quiets my soul and refreshes me.

I also enjoy laying out in the sun and swimming (or should I just say floating on a floatie) in my sister’s pool.  That is one of the most relaxing things I can think of. 




I also love laughter! Whether it be someone telling me a story, and I am bowled over with laughter, or watching a funny movie.  I feel so much better after laughing. Laughing also has many health benefits. It can help your heart and lungs, and it promotes muscle relaxation. It can also help reduce anxiety.


Laughing woman hearing good news, joke on yellow background


Why is relaxation so good for us?

  • It restores our energy. Often times, we just push and push ourselves.  In order to keep generating more energy, we need to let our bodies rest. 
  • Relaxation repairs our bodies. If we are constantly on the move and not getting enough sleep, we are using most of the energy we have to keep going.
  • Relaxation calms our thoughts and improves focus. We push our bodies often too far, and our minds are constantly on the move, too.

My challenge to you – and to me – is to make “unscheduled” time and “rest and relaxation” a priority.  It is too easy to fill moments of down time with “to do” lists, chores and tasks. 




I would love to hear from you on how you get some rest and relation – and how you “diffuse” from the hustle and bustle of the busy day!

Until next time ~


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • Lakisha says:

    I get relaxation with a bubble bath at night. I light some candles and have instrumentals play in the background and I just relax. I focus on the present and concentrate on my bath and not the outside world. I want to start doing yoga, as well.

    • Clare says:

      I love bubble baths! I usually take them on Friday nights …. after the long week and when I am exhausted ! Yes, I want to start yoga, too! Thanks for sharing!

  • I find relaxation very important- especially as a college student! I find my relaxation in cooking and yoga as well 🙂

    • Clare says:

      Wow – that’s great…. I wish I cooked more! My friend Mary above is just a spectacular cook and she loves it! I want to start Yoga! Thanks for commenting and sharing how you get your R&R!

  • Dana says:

    I relax by reading a book or with yoga. I never used to allow myself the time to decompress and relax, and now I think back to how silly I was!

    • Clare says:

      Yes, I love to read, too. I think all of us should really make time for relaxing and taking a break…. however we enjoy – it’s so so important! And I know I have to get “refueled!’! Thanks for your thoughts – appreciate it! 🙂

  • Sabrina Fox says:

    I usually grab a good book, pour in some lavender bubble bath and plop down in the bathtub for about an hour. (Closer to two if we’re being honest)! Lol

    • Clare says:

      I love lavender and especially love the smell of it! I, too, love to take bubble baths! And good for you – a two hour one would be so so spectacular! Thanks!!!

  • I relax by playing with my cats. They are my joy and after a hard day, coming back to them is a feeling that awakens and soothes me at the same time. However, for those extra tiring days, I don’t mind putting up a good bubble bath and plonk down with a nice book/ blog post (like this) and while some time away. 🙂
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on R&R.
    Have a great day. Cheers!

    • Clare says:

      Awwwww – so cute – yes the pets in our lives are so comforting (I have two dogs) …. Thanks so much for sharing how you relax, too, Shreyashi – books and bubble baths – yes, yes, yes! 🙂

  • Tish says:

    I definitely need to do more yoga. Thanks for the other tips as well.

  • jennyb says:

    I love a nice bath with a glass of wine, or lying on the couch watching a movie or reading a book.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, I love the bath, too and I love laying around in my “favorite chair” – watching taped “shows from the week” or a good Lifetime movie! Thanks for sharing!

  • Farrah says:

    Taking walks, cooking, working out, music (…basically any of my hobbies) definitely help to “restore” me + prevent burnout! :]!

    • Clare says:

      Taking walks….. yes, yes, I love getting fresh air… and love that your hobbies help “relax” you – as they should! Yes, I think we need to do simple refreshing things for ourselves to prevent the “burnout” that so easily can come upon us! Thanks! 🙂

  • Keishawna says:

    Great post! I’m guilty of being way too busy lately. I laughed when you said “make unscheduled free time a priority”. I immediately thought, I need to schedule my “unscheduled” time. I accept your challenge and plan to do something different this week to get in some much needed rest and relaxation! I may even start right now! Have a great weekend.

    • Clare says:

      I love that you need to “schedule my ‘unscheduled’ time”!!!! Get some rest, Keishawna! You won’t regret it I don’t think! Good for you! And thanks for sharing this because this happens to too, too many of us busy women! 🙂

  • Joey says:

    Great post – I found it quite interesting how different people choose to relax.

    I find that my relaxation time is when I am at the gym with a few of my friends. When our minds are focused purely on gains and technique, nothing else seems to matter that much. It’s quite therapeutic.

    • Clare says:

      I need to get back to the gym! Thanks for that reminder. Ny youngest daughter is devoted to working out at the gym! I know when I went – I would go to the gym early morning and it was such great “alone time”. Thanks for sharing what you love to do and how it is therapeutic for you!

  • Karen Dowd-Hansen says:

    After a long week at work plus canning like crazy every spare moment (salmon, lemon marmalade, and marinara sauce), I did hit that wall. Luckily, it is raining today, and the perfect way to relax is having a fire in the wood stove, and a new book to open! A long walk usually helps, too 🙂

  • Clare says:

    Oh – thanks for sharing – in the wintertime I do miss a good “fire”!!!!! Enjoy your down reading and relaxing time, Karen – you deserve it! I love walks, too – they are refreshing! 🙂

  • Diane says:

    Yoga and knitting are my go-to stress relievers. Cooking can be for me if there are no time constraints or distractions and I have an audio book going. 😀

    • Clare says:

      Glad you shared, Diane! Never tried knitting but both my sister and her daughter are quite good at it! Glad you have some de-stressors going in your life and thanks for sharing them with us!

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