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If I had my life to live over…

Someone asked me the other day if I had my life to live over would I change anything.

My answer was no, but then I thought about it and changed my mind.

If I had my life to live over again I would have waxed less and listened more.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I’d have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten popcorn in the “good” living room and worried less about the dirt when you lit the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have burnt the pink candle that was sculptured like a rose before it melted while being stored.

I would have sat cross-legged on the lawn with my children and never worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television … and more while watching real life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband which I took for granted.

I would have eaten less cottage cheese and more ice cream.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick, instead of pretending the Earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day.

I would never have bought ANYTHING just because it was practical/wouldn’t show soil/ guaranteed to last a lifetime.

When my child kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now, go get washed up for dinner.”

There would have been more I love yous … more I’m sorrys … more I’m listenings … but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it … look at it and really see it … try it on … live it … exhaust it … and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.” 

Want more information on “Eat Less Cottage Cheese and More Ice Cream:  Thoughts On Life From Erma Bombeck”? –  click below:

I love the above beautiful writing by author and humorist Erma Bombeck. She captures it all in a nutshell.  




When I was younger, I remember wanting to rush the stages of life – I wanted to hurry up and finish high school, hurry to my 20’s to be a “grownup”, so I could do what I wanted to do; hurry up to work full-time to earn my own money.  Now, many moons later, I am flat out tired!  And I’d like to slow down the clock a little bit.  But, of course that’s not possible.

As I get older, I reflect back on my life of rushing around as a working mom with two very active girls and trying to work full-time and get all the motherhood “duties” and household “chores” done.   As I am a little older now, maybe wiser (the jury is still out on that one), I realize it was those special moments in our lives that I cherished the most.   When my sweet girls would look up and giggle and make me laugh or say something funny. 




But, we can’t “turn back the wheels of time.”  I wish we could “freeze dry” some of the more wonderful moments, but we can’t. We can only move forward one day at a time, one moment at a time.  So, my goal at this stage in my life is to try to not sweat the small stuff, and remember you only have the present, so capture it!  

I am close to being a first-time grandmother, and I fully intend on cherishing every single moment of that!  Because I know those moments will go by way, way too quickly! 




Bye for now.


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • We all have those I woulda moments. The best we can do is to not continue to create them and to enjoy the moment we’re in. Being a Nana is absolutely wonderful, enjoy every second!!

    • Clare says:

      That’s so true, Cynthia – to enjoy the moment we are currently!!!! So excited that being a grandmother is wonderful! Looking forward to it! 🙂

  • Terri says:

    This is just beautiful! I think, if I could live my life over I would allow myself to live more and worry less. Luckily, it’s never to late to start. Here’s to a new chapter in life in which I actually live. Thanks for sharing.

  • Jessi Haynes says:

    Hey there, visiting you from Blog Love! This is a great post, admitting these things can be so hard. I think if I had to live it over I wouldn’t have put so much pressure on myself to have a “typical”, predictable career. I think I would have found what I loved much more quickly!

    • Clare says:

      Oh, thanks for sharing your heart, Jessi – we do put a lot of pressure on ourselves often times – I am glad like you have found what you love to do! Blessings!

  • If only we were born with or developed this kind of wisdom much earlier in life. If I could start over I would the things I thought I shouldn’t do because they benefited only me.

    • Clare says:

      I know right! This type of wisdom seems like it comes from lots of years of living!!!! Ha ha ha – 🙂 Great comments and thanks!

  • Kate says:

    So very true! On vacation visiting aging parents does cause you to slow down. Having my now almost 13 year old granddaughter along is priceless! I love seeing her play in the backyard we enjoyed for so many wonderful years! How can she be about to be a teen? I think we’ll catch lightening bugs & look at the stars tonight!

    • Clare says:

      So glad you are enjoying your trip, Kate, and enjoying your parents – so, so important! Wow – lightening bugs – enjoy – that’s been years for me!!!!!! 🙂 🙂

  • Love this! Funny I often say I wish I could go back and do better the second time around since I am wiser now. But so much of the things I want to change would actually alter what I have now. So it’s a tough question lol.

    • Clare says:

      Well, we all say we would do better “the second time around” – who really knows, right!???? Thanks for stopping by! Appreciate it! 🙂

  • I was really moved by this post. Reading through the list of things the writer would have done differently if she had her life to live over leads to quiet reflection on my own life and how I might do things differently. I think this is the reason so many grandparents are a new and improved version of the parents they were when raising children. They’ve learned to slow down and enjoy the little things, worry less about kids sitting on furniture in their special-occasion-only living room, show more patience, relish in small daily delights. We are all learning and evolving. As time moves on we experience how beautiful life is when we really start enjoying the process and all the special moments along the way.

    • Clare says:

      Erma Bombeck entertained and always made me laugh – but she did have a lot of wisdom to share with us all! I think we all need to learn to slow down a bit – no matter what age… I am looking forward to becoming a grandmother and special moments! Thanks for sharing, Denay! 🙂

  • Karen says:

    Thanks for the reminder, Clare. Life goes by so quickly, something that we really don’t think about when we are young. How many times have I wished that I spent more time with my brother and sister before they were taken away from me? I wish I had worked less when my children were small, because I missed so much of their growing up. Life does not always give us choices, though, and you are so right. Treasure every moment starting today, and try not to regret the past!

    • Clare says:

      Oh, so so sorry for your loss, Karen. Well, I sure wished I had worked less, too, when my kids were younger – but it oftentimes cannot be helped truly. Life doesn’t always give us these choices. Trying to enjoy the present … and hopefully the future! Thanks! 🙂

  • pam miller says:

    As we grow older and wiser we can be the best grands to our grandchildren not that we were not the best to our kids but its totally different with your grands you will gobble up every moment with them and I know clare you will be an awesome grandmom!!!

    • Clare says:

      I keep hearing how different it is with grandchildren – I guess I’m going to find out soon enough! Thanks, Pam – appreciate the support always! 🙂

  • andi says:

    i don’t know – i never thought about those kind of moments

  • This is so great! I’m in my mid-twenties about to start family life, and I love this reminder that the days fly by and I need to take the time to slow down and enjoy them (and especially to eat more ice cream). Thanks for this encouragement!

    • Clare says:

      Ha ha – cute Lauren – I can promise you I DON’T need any more ice cream (smile smile) but surely love it! So glad you like the post – and you have your whole life ahead of you!!!! Blessings! 🙂

  • Katie says:

    Love this reminder! I am visiting my ailing grandparents this week and have been mulling the same thing over. Working to make the very most of TODAY. Blessings!

    • Clare says:

      So glad you are visiting your aging grandparents! They will truly appreciate it, I am sure, I am trying to make the most of every day, too and thanks for that reminder, too! 🙂

  • Great post! Nice reminder to slow down while we still can! I need to remember this and take it easier 🙂

  • Maria Hass says:

    This was deep! I know some people use the phrase “Yolo!” (you only live once) but it’s about the quality of your life – and that’s measured in smiles and never in currency! Thank you for sharing the reminder!

    • Clare says:

      Erma Bombeck was such a delight to read – very funny but lots of wisdom, too, and so glad you liked it Maria! It is about the quality of our lives …. I think we all need that constant reminder! Thanks Maria! 🙂

  • Brittany says:

    I love this post. Hopefully we can all take something from it and slow down and enjoy life a bit.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Brittany – I am delighted that you stopped by and you enjoyed the post! Yes, I hope we can all slow down a bit, too! 🙂

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