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I’m A Worry Wart … And I Hate It!

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I’m a “worry wart”… and I hate it.  I hate saying that I am, but it’s the truth.  Worry is best described as “anxiety”, “nervousness”, or “unease”.  This is an area I struggle with – constantly.  And… I believe I am not alone in this struggle.  

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We worry about all kinds of things:  a bad health report, our first born child away at college for the first time, having no retirement, about the future, our ill parents, and a million other things.  Worry, worry, worry.   It is a “useless” feeling, and worry certainly doesn’t add one cent of value to our lives.  

But, let’s be honest for a moment; some of us have more difficulty with worrying than others.  I mean, I can’t switch it on and off like a light switch, but you can bet I sure wish it was that easy.   It’s just not always that simple.  Remember, like so many things – we are probably doing the best we can with what we have.  

I worry about things that haven’t happened yet … and more than likely, I am worrying about things that won’t ever happen.  Sometimes, it causes me to get fidgety.  At other times, it causes insomnia, and I can’t rest. 

Worry can wreak havoc on our bodies and our minds – upset stomachs, sleeplessness, gain weight, back aches, headaches, fatigue and even adult acne!  

Worry and anxiety can surely be a moment-by-moment and day-by-day journey.  Although I do still struggle with bouts of worry and anxiety, I have found a few things that have helped me reduce worry’s grip on me: 

  • Bible Scriptures: Post some helpful scriptures (such as below) around your computer, work area and home. 
  • Breathing Exercises: When you are feeling particularly anxious about something, take a deep breath in while counting “1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5” then release.  Repeat a few times. 
  • Get Enough Sleep and Rest. Ever notice how everything seems worse when you are exhausted?  
  • Proper Diet and Exercise: Studies show that diet and exercise are an important part of helping manage anxiety and the effects of “worrying”. 
  • Lose the “Negative Nellies” – Yikes! The last thing a worrier needs is negativity. 
  • Surround Yourself with Positive People. When I surround myself with people who lift my spirits, it helps get my mind off the worries of the day. 
  • Think Positive! Getting our minds aligned with positive and hopeful thoughts is the best way to go. 

The opposite of worry?  Peace.  Peace is what we all hope for, and it’s what we all really want and need!   

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“Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.”  (Psalm 55:33 NKJV) 

“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”  (Matthew 11:28-30 – NIV)   

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.”- Corrie Ten Boom 

 

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Until next time…I’ll be worrying a little less – and I hope you will too. 

Your friend~ 

~Clare

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Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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33 Comments

  • Terri says:

    I don’t consider myself a worrywart, but I do worry. Because I was raised by a worry wart, I see first hand what stress it can cause. So I always try my best to think positively and remember that worry is a downpayment on a problem we may never have.

    • Clare says:

      Really so true, Terri. Just being around someone firsthand – you can tell the stress involved. I know – thinking positively definitely helps for sure! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • Mary Collins says:

    Clare,
    That is so me. Worry is such a bad habit. I am still working and praying to relieve myself of this habit. Your tips will certainly help.

  • hayli says:

    Yep, I have the same thing. If I am worried about something it will be all I can think about until it is resolved to the point of not sleeping or eating sometimes- then if it goes bad, worry some more, if it went good then it just is like ti never happened

    • Clare says:

      Awww – so true oftentimes Hayli – too much worry can cause sleep disturbance and so many other issues…. Thanks for sharing!

  • Lizzy Hill says:

    I’m a worry wart too! I have severe anxiety, but I started going to a Christian counselor 6 months ago and it has changed my life. I am way less anxious and I have found peace. It’s a wonderful thing and I think God for it. Thanks for sharing these tips with me and others!

    • Clare says:

      Wow – thanks for sharing that, Lizzy, and so delighted the counseling helped! And I am so, so glad you are less anxious and have peace! Blessings!

  • As someone with two anxiety disorders, worrying has been my biggest stumbling block in life. There has been so much bad stuff, that there was a time where if I had nothing to worry about, I’d be worrying about that because it meant something bad was supposed to happen.

    The struggle with anxiety disorders is that Bible verses and breathing don’t always work; particularly when you are still in the middle of learning how to combat the disorder. I’ve found in those instances, one of the best things to do is find an anchor point that allows you to expand deeper and teach yourself how to trust God. For me, it was a Bible verse tattooed on my arm (Jeremy 29:11). It was that constant reminder God knows what is going on, God knows what is going to happen. That eventually allowed me to train myself to remember that I cannot control what the outcome will be. God knows what it will be, and I have to believe that he will help me through it, regardless of the outcome. Worrying just makes it harder to let God lead.

    Destroying worry (and anxiety) is as much about learning to relinquish control as it is beginning to understand that allowing that is detrimental to your mental (and often physical) well-being.

    Thank you for this post! The steps you’ve listed are powerful reminders, and I know there are MANY out there who struggle with this 🙂

    • Clare says:

      Wow – Tabitha – I learned so much from you and your sharing your story! And I want to thank you for that – such insight – I know you walked a hard journey and thanks for sharing how you are dealing better with it now!!! Blessings to you! 🙂

  • Ashley says:

    Great post – I struggle with worrying as well. Thanks for the tips!

  • Hillary says:

    Oh, boy, do I worry! And as you said I often worry about things that are very unlikely to be. Jesus so often said, “Peace” or “Don’t be afraid” and “Don’t worry”. I am trying to listen to our Savior, but it’s hard. I have to really offer up my worry to him a lot and let him help with it.

    Good post. That last quote is unfamiliar but true. Worry simply ruins our today instead of relieving our tomorrow.

    • Clare says:

      Me, too, Hillary – I have to always read God’s promises and scriptures, and offer up my fears and worry. Worry does ruin our day… it’s a learning process, I think for us all! 🙂

  • andi says:

    i find that praying works well for me in times like that

  • Tiffany says:

    I do this to and it keeps me up as well. I have taken to making to do lists and journaling. It helps get the worrying out of my head and onto something concrete, so I can act on it.

    • Clare says:

      Now that is great – I do to do lists but journaling would be a great way, too, to channel our thoughts and fears and worrying! Thanks for that tip, you are helping us all by sharing!

  • Rene D says:

    This is just what I needed – I worry much about my boys lately (they are all grown up, but us mothers still worry).. Thanks for the insight!

    • Clare says:

      Awwww, we mothers always worry, don’t we Rene!!!? My girls are young adults too, and I worry about them all the time, too!

  • Although most of us worry from time to time, I would not consider myself to be much of a worrier. What helps me maintain a positive outlook and stay upbeat is by starting each day with genuine feelings of gratitude (invite feelings of thankfulness to flow through your body) and by making specific positive affirmations to God and the universe. I am a firm believer that thoughts are very powerful things. We each are like a magnet that attracts and manifests the things we think about most and are fully expecting to appear in our lives. When we worry about something we are concentrating negative energy on that specific matter and basically telling the universe that this is what we are expecting to welcome into our lives. I love that your post outlines several ways to combat worrying. My two favorite tips from your list: Surround yourself with positive people, and think positive! 🙂

  • Clare says:

    Yes yes yes! I agree, Denay. Positive and reaffirming thoughts and gratitude to God for all He has done and IS doing in my life really really helps! So glad you shared the need to get and be positive! I think that always helps us!

  • Paula says:

    You are not alone! I know several friends who struggle with this too! Should we start a club? lol Worry Warts Anonymous? No. Peace Seekers? That has a nice ring to it! All joking aside, these are some great tips! Thank you!!

  • Angie says:

    I do love this post. I am a worrier, and I worry about worrying! Then I feel guilty because as a Christian when I worry I’m not trusting. It’s a vicious cycle. I love that Corrie Ten Boom quote. She is amazing.

    • Clare says:

      I know – it’s hard to admit we as Christians are “worrying” and not trusting God… but we all have “areas” that we deal with and we are only human! I love Corrie Ten Boom, too – thanks for sharing your honesty! 🙂

  • Dia says:

    I am one as well! It runs in the family sadly my mom before me and my grandfather before her. I have to constantly tell myself to breath. I’ve a lot of things and sometimes it’s easier than other times. I send positive thoughts to you as I hope you do to me.

    • Clare says:

      Me too, me too, Dia! My dad was a “worrier” and my sister and I always say we got it from him! I do send positive thoughts to you, too! 🙂 Blessings!

  • I’m a worry wart, too! Love your suggestions – great ideas! I just mentioned to my husband after returning from a long weekend trip, that I didn’t even stress or worry on either of my flights (for the first time in years)! Maybe because we were on our way to be with friends we hadn’t seen in ages? That could fall into “surround yourself with positive people!” I’ll take it!

    • Clare says:

      Yes, yes – so glad you had a great trip and “didn’t” worry! Good for you! Thanks for sharing and stopping by! 🙂

  • Ai says:

    Good advice! I have seasons of being consumed with anxiety, usually about things that are not true or things that I really have no control over. Knowing that those moments are opportunities to trust God and grow in my relationship with Him brings calm to the storm.

    • Clare says:

      You give such wonderful advice, because most of these things never every happen (that we worry about) and bringing them to God is the best! Thanks! 🙂

  • gail says:

    If you pray, why worry?
    If you worry, why pray?

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