I hate when I am “Negative Nellie”…. when my thoughts, feelings and words are just downright negative! I mean, I hate when I am in that “mode”, and I am these days trying to make a conscious effort to get out of it! I am learning more and more about how negative thoughts and words can affect our overall wellbeing. I mean, we have so many challenges living in today’s world, no matter what our age is, and it’s hard to stay positive for more than five minutes, let alone a day or a week at a time.
I really believe if we line up our mind and thoughts, we often can boost the quality of our lives. All that negativity can really affect everything in our lives – from our mental health and wellbeing, to our physical health, and how we sleep at night and how we look at life. I often expect the worst to happen, when I know that in my heart of hearts this is contrary to everything that God wants to do in our lives. And, He has seen me through countless times!
I have often experienced this the hard way – and sometimes I still do. I remember when my husband, Mike, went through prostate cancer and lost his job after surgery…. that was just such an all-round stressful and discouraging time. We went through a year without paying our mortgage. I remember oftentimes whining and saying “we are so broke, and we are going to lose our house.” And that really affected my daily life – it was so stressful, and I didn’t really see a natural way out. But, we subsequently got our mortgage restructured, and we were able to stay in our home. We really received God’s goodness and blessings in our life through others as well as Him.
Another time, shortly after we had our second child, I remember thinking and saying “we’ll never get out of this old, tiny house.” We were squeezed in an old 900 something square foot two-bedroom, one bath house that needed a lot of work, and we had clearly “outgrown” it,. Years later, we ended up in a modest, but brand new home. It wasn’t a big house, but it smelled new and fresh, and it fit our family size. We only had to move about four blocks away! We loved our area of town where we lived. I just didn’t see where it was possible, and it was so, so hard to line up my mind with positive thoughts.
I have found that it is often so easy to whine and gripe and be “Negative Nellie” and feel like “it’s never going to change” … and often the blessing comes in a form we never would have expected, or the blessing arrives when we least expect it. And, things may get better, but not often in our timeline. I believe, and have seen, that our attitude can make all the difference in the world – how we think and speak – going through that difficult situation.
One of my favorite authors, Joyce Meyers, states:
“You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.”
She references the scripture, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he….” (Proverbs 23:7 AMP)
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.” (Philippians 4:8 NAS)
Joyce shares in her book “Battlefield of the Mind”: “I am sure that you can see from these various Scriptures that we are instructed to think on good things, things that will build us up and not tear us down. Our thoughts certainly affect our attitudes and moods. Everything the Lord tells us is for our own good. He knows what will make us happy and what will make us miserable.”
The link for her book Battlefield of the Mind is: http://www.amazon.com/Battlefield-Mind-Winning-Battle-Your/dp/0446691097
And it’s hard to keep our minds and hearts positive and encouraged while we are walking through a difficult season or journey in our life. The negative thoughts can pound us day in and day out.
Here are some thoughts:
- Have quiet time set aside filled with prayer. Studying God’s Word will help get your day off to the right start!
- Fill yourself with positive and encouraging scriptures (on hope, encouragement, God’s love for us).
- Watch out what you fill your mind with! Various TV shows and movies, radio programs, the news and social media can really bombard our minds and heart with anxious and discouraging thoughts.
- Stay hopeful and expectant of God’s blessings in your life! God wants to bless us, and He will carry us through. You may want to read some of these scripture promises of hope several times a day!
I hope this lightens your load, and I wish you a wonderful and positive week!