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I hate when I am “Negative Nellie”…. when my thoughts, feelings and words are just downright negative!  I mean, I hate when I am in that “mode”, and I am these days trying to make a conscious effort to get out of it!  I am learning more and more about how negative thoughts and words can affect our overall wellbeing.  I mean, we have so many challenges living in today’s world, no matter what our age is, and it’s hard to stay positive for more than five minutes, let alone a day or a week at a time.   


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I really believe if we line up our mind and thoughts, we often can boost the quality of our lives.  All that negativity can really affect everything in our lives – from our mental health and wellbeing, to our physical health, and how we sleep at night and how we look at life.  I often expect the worst to happen, when I know that in my heart of hearts this is contrary to everything that God wants to do in our lives.  And, He has seen me through countless times!

I have often experienced this the hard way – and sometimes I still do.  I remember when my husband, Mike, went through prostate cancer and lost his job after surgery…. that was just such an all-round stressful and discouraging time.  We went through a year without paying our mortgage.    I remember oftentimes whining and saying “we are so broke, and we are going to lose our house.”  And that really affected my daily life – it was so stressful, and I didn’t really see a natural way out.  But, we subsequently got our mortgage restructured, and we were able to stay in our home.  We really received God’s goodness and blessings in our life through others as well as Him.


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Another time, shortly after we had our second child, I remember thinking and saying “we’ll never get out of this old, tiny house.”  We were squeezed in an old 900 something square foot two-bedroom, one bath house that needed a lot of work, and we had clearly “outgrown” it,.  Years later, we ended up in a modest, but brand new home.   It wasn’t a big house, but it smelled new and fresh, and it fit our family size.  We only had to move about four blocks away!  We loved our area of town where we lived.  I just didn’t see where it was possible, and it was so, so hard to line up my mind with positive thoughts.

I have found that it is often so easy to whine and gripe and be “Negative  Nellie” and feel like “it’s never going to change” …  and often the blessing comes in a form we never would have expected, or the blessing arrives when we least expect it.  And, things may get better, but not often in our timeline.  I believe, and have seen, that our attitude can make all the difference in the world – how we think and speak – going through that difficult situation.  

One of my favorite authors, Joyce Meyers, states:

You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” 

She references the scripture, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he….” (Proverbs 23:7 AMP)
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.”  (Philippians 4:8 NAS)

 Joyce shares in her book “Battlefield of the Mind”:  “I am sure that you can see from these various Scriptures that we are instructed to think on good things, things that will build us up and not tear us down.  Our thoughts certainly affect our attitudes and moods.  Everything the Lord tells us is for our own good.   He knows what will make us happy and what will make us miserable.” 

The link for her book Battlefield of the Mind is:




And it’s hard to keep our minds and hearts positive and encouraged while we are walking through a difficult season or journey in our life.  The negative thoughts can pound us day in and day out. 

Here are some thoughts:

  • Have quiet time set aside filled with prayer. Studying God’s Word will help get your day off to the right start!
  • Fill yourself with positive and encouraging scriptures (on hope, encouragement, God’s love for us).
  • Watch out what you fill your mind with!  Various TV shows and movies, radio programs, the news and social media can really bombard our minds and heart with anxious and discouraging thoughts. 
  • Stay hopeful and expectant of God’s blessings in your life! God wants to bless us, and He will carry us through.  You may want to read some of these scripture promises of hope several times a day! 




I hope this lightens your load, and I wish you a wonderful and positive week!



Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • Fillia says:

    It is everyone battle. Staying positive is not easy when life seems rough. But feeding our soul with God’s promises helps us overcoming negative thoughts. Beautiful post.

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    • Clare says:

      Yes, it is so hard! I agree! I love that – “feeding our soul with God’s promises helps us overcoming negative thoughts.” Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • A negative mind really does affect us horribly. I use to be insanely positive, and then life kept throwing us down, and it wasn’t until a few years later I realized how negative I had become. Once I was aware I’ve been trying hard to get out of the negative mindset, and life is overall just better from that simple change.
    I love your tips! Spending time studying God’s word and in prayer to Him can help get rid of those negative thoughts more often.

    • Clare says:

      A negative mind does affect us in all kinds of ways for sure! Trying to stay positive in today’s world with our challenges is a step by step process! Thanks for sharing – and glad the tips help!

  • Tasia Boland says:

    It is so important to fill your mind with scriptures so when the negative thoughts pour you you can speak those scriptures and they breathe positive life into you. It is so true how our attitude on life affects SO many things.

    • Clare says:

      I know – I have to claim and hold onto the promises of God! I have two promise books with scriptures that really comes in hand! And our attitude is the deciding factor of a lot of things in our lives – that’s for sure! Thanks!

  • Cara says:

    I think it’s all about changing your mentality from focusing on the negatives (the easy route) to focusing on the positives in every situation. If you really think about it, you can always find a positive reason to be happy, and I try to remind myself that there are always others out there who are less fortunate than me or who are going through something really tough. Great post of encouragement!

    • Clare says:

      Yes, focusing on the positive is so important but I think it’s a struggle truly for most of us! So glad you were encouraged! Thanks for stopping in!

  • Meredith Nye says:

    I have also found that it is so helpful to not surround yourself with people who are constantly negative. Great inspirational post!

    • Clare says:

      Great tip, Meredith! Yes, I find that too – when I am around negative people it truly affects me negatively indeed! Thanks for sharing that!

  • Aishwarya S says:

    Wonderful writing. I’m usually complaining about a lot of things, people and situations. And when I realise I’m being too negative, I snap out of it by doing something else like listening to music or reading. Those inspirational quotes are a need! 🙂

    • Clare says:

      I complain lots, too, I think that’s just human nature! I know – when I do something I enjoy or just even take a break, or watch a funny movie, that helps get my mind off of troubles or negative thoughts for sure!

  • Joanne says:

    Hard to do all the time, but so true!! Thank you for sharing!

    • Clare says:

      Gosh, Joanne, it is so challenging to stay positive day in and out… and I have nowhere reached that for sure! Thanks for agreeing it is so hard to stay positive all the time! A little bit at a time…

  • lisa says:

    What a great reminder of how things usually end up “working out”, and how important it is to stay positive!

  • Skye says:

    You’re so right about the media. I stopped reading mainstream women’s magazines when I realized I was always comparing myself to something in those pages and feeling disappointed. When in reality, my life was just fine!

    • Clare says:

      Yikes, some of those ladies magazines really have very very thin women – most of which are not a realistic expectation!!!!! I am glad your life was fine! Yes, I have learned the hard way to not compare myself to others!

  • Maria Hass says:

    I have totally been a negative nelly recently, feeling like things will “never get better”, and it’s not helping my health issues at all! I feel worse instead of better. What you wrote is so true! A positive outlook can greatly impact our decisions, our mood, and elevate us! Thank God He helps us when we can’t see a positive outlook, because prayer changes us!

    • Clare says:

      Aw – so sorry Maria and I have definitely had (and still have) plenty of those days, moments and seasons where nothing looks positive and it’s so hard to look up! Prayer does change us! Amen – thanks for sharing!

  • Shannon says:

    I am not very religious, but those scriptures are lovely. Even though it’s important to not be negative and see the best in life, I think it’s also important not to be very hard on ourselves and realize that we were in a difficult time…definitely give yourself a lot of credit! 🙂

    • Clare says:

      So glad you like the scriptures Shannon! I also agree – most of us are just too hard on ourselves and we must give ourselves more credit! Thanks so so much for sharing that perspective!

  • I firmly believe in the power of intention. That your thoughts are very real things that draw people, situations and experiences into your life based on what you are expecting or anticipating to happen. I think of my own thoughts as little seeds that when constantly watered will grow and bloom. So I begin each day filled with positive thoughts. Awake in bed I think about all that I am grateful for and thank God for them. Then I include an affirmation about what I envision my future to be. In this way I plant more seeds for what I am deliberately drawing into my life. It’s completely amazing but absolutely true that the universe conspires to make your dreams become reality. 🙂

    • Clare says:

      I love this – thinking our own thoughts will be like little seeds that when constantly watered will grown and bloom! Yes, a state of gratefulness is indeed important! Thanks so much, Denay, for sharing this!

  • Rhiannon says:

    When life gets rough, it’s so important to find the positive in every negative. Negativity can easily derail everything you’ve worked so hard for.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, it is important to find the positive in every negative – and it can truly be a “learning experience” for growth and development! Negatively can derail lots of good and hard word! Thanks for that, Rhiannon! Appreciate your stopping by and sharing!

  • Mary Collins says:

    What a powerful post. I’m so with you guilty of being negative when going through a difficult time. For me, I go up and down, up and down. One moments I believe the Lord is going to bring me through this and the next I’ve slipped back into the land of unbelief. At my lowest, reading the Word or reciting a particular scripture always lifts me up.

    • Clare says:

      You are certainly not alone Mary into “the land of unbelief” – it’s a constant challenge. Yes, reading scripture and God’s promises certainly help! Thanks for sharing!

  • Ally j brown says:

    THankyou for the tips I really needed to read this tonight.

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