Last week, I was sharing my thoughts on being a “large woman” in a sometimes “skinny world” … (If you missed last week’s blog, catch up now at http://www.lifeainteasystreet.com/?p=997.
This week, I want to zero in on – the craziest and most offensive things that have either been said to me or have been said to other “large” babes.
- “You have such a pretty face.” (Gee whiz – I kinda’ already know that – ha ha ha – if you don’t mind me saying that).
- “Are you pregnant…. or have you just gained weight?” (Yikes, oh no – this is the MOST AWFUL ONE of all, I think.)
- “Are you going to eat all that? You are going back for seconds?” (Naturally, if they are bone thin, I am I am tempted to answer back, “When was the last time you actually ate instead of just looked at someone else’s plate of food?”
- “I don’t understand this fat acceptance. Just because some people are fat and okay with it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be encouraging people to improve their health.” (Do I really even need to say anything about this? Smokers know they shouldn’t smoke, and alcoholics know they shouldn’t drink … but have you ever tried to go a day without food? It’s tough.)
A couple of not so fun experiences…..
I remember one time at the doctor’s office years ago (I wasn’t even that big then), and this petite female doctor was talking and said….”Well, you are a LARGE woman” and the tone of her voice….. yikes, It was so insulting.
Another time, I was out with a group of co-workers, and I ordered a “lighter fare” meal. I think it was chicken with something, and I ordered extra dressing (yes, I know – I like to drench most anything in dressing and sauces if I can) and the young waitress said, “Yes, of course, but you know, that’s going to add so many more calories to your lighter meal.” – (I wanted to slap her; what did she think – I DIDN’T KNOW THAT????)
I’m not ugly. I have nice skin, and I am getting more and more comfortable with my appearance, and who I am since I have “arrived” in the oh-so-spectacular “middle age” stage of my life. I try to eat better and definitely want to get exercise back on my calendar as a priority because, of course, as I get older, I am more concerned about health issues rather than my appearance.
I don’t think people understand food binges, food addictions, or overeaters… they don’t understand it is a PROBLEM or an addiction just like when someone is an alcoholic, or a smoker trying to quit. I am not saying now that all large women have an addiction problem or the like – I am just saying a lot of larger girls, including myself, have an issue with food.
Do I worry about sitting on a lawn chair and it collapsing? Yes!
Do I worry about fitting my wide big butt in the confines of an airplane seat? (Of course – thank goodness I don’t fly very often).
And my worst fear… coming across my own medical records and it stating “morbidly obese”! Yikes!
Would I like to be thin???? Of course I would, but I realize I am challenged with it. There I said it….
Hopefully, people who know me find that I have many other attractive qualities … and I am betting if you are a large girl, you do too!
Ok, I am signing off now to walk Bella, my little Chihuahua …. But I must say, I stepped outside to check out the weather and …. I smelled someone’s barbeque…. Sooooooo, guess what I am going to do when I get back from my walk?
So I guess what I am saying is, while I may be a full-figured woman, I am comfortable with who I am … and what I like.
Your “large babe” friend –