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Living Large In a Skinny World

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Let’s talk for a minute about large women (I am one by the way).  Hey, for those out there who don’t realize it – I have to admit, I LIKE FOOD!  Well, should I mention the obvious; maybe I like food a little too much sometimes!!  I would be lying if I didn’t say that.


Okay, and the thing is, it’s not like I’m in denial…. I mean, I admit I like food – mostly carbs, starches, Italian food and sweets!  Pasta, pizza, Italian bread, rice, more pasta… then top it off two hours later with chocolate chip ice cream!


Pasta with meatballs


I probably WISH I didn’t love food as much as I do.  I remember when I was growing up, our Mom (I am the youngest of 4) would PRAY that we would “eat lots and gain lots of weight!”  I mean – who can fight a praying mother!????  (So maybe I should blame this whole thing of being a “big babe” on my mother!)  I guess I really can’t blame everything on my mother… I will eat when I am stressed, bored, sad, happy – you know … emotional eating!  Sometimes I eat just to eat, and when I do this, I am not really even enjoying the food.  I know I have some plus-sized sisters out there who can relate to this.


Do I eat healthy as well?  Yes, you bet I do.  I love fruits, almost all vegetables, and I love a big salad!




I don’t have all the answers; I am simply just sharing my heart here.  And if you are a bone thin skinny chick, this blog post may not be for you…. But then again….. I could be wrong!   There are very slender and even some underweight women who tell me that they think about food all the time. Woman to woman though, I want to share a few of my thoughts with you.  I am betting you a carton of Publix’s Vanilla Swirl ice cream that there are other large gals who have similar thoughts:


  • We don’t wake up every morning and say, “Gee, I am so glad I am fat!” 
  • Some of us are trying to lose weight … obviously we are sometimes more successful than we are at other times. 
  • We are beautiful… even if you don’t agree! It’s what’s on the inside that radiates to the outside. 
  • We’ve all been through enough diets, and read enough books on “The Real Way to Lose Weight” to fill up a library! So we don’t necessarily want your advice on how to lose weight. 
  • Yes, many of us plus babes like to exercise, go out, have fun and work hard! And yes, many of us have plenty of energy for everything we want to accomplish. And no, most of us are not lazy – we are just overweight… 
  • We love to dress up, put on makeup and look pretty just like you do! And we are often pretty just like you are! We haven’t “let ourselves go” … that is a whole other problem to be addressed in another post. 
  • As I get older, I, as a large person, am comfortable in my skin and I realize I have many attractive qualities… other than my weight! 
  • We don’t necessarily want to stay large! But some of us are challenged more than others. 


More to come next week on Monday, July 27, 2015 … this is just Part I, because after all, I seem to have quite a bit of experience on this topic.






~Your friend,


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • Christine says:

    Man, this definitely hits home! I must have inherited this lovely gene, but just like you I don’t allow it to shape my whole life! I still feel pretty at times and have ALWAYS fluctuated in weight! Good post! Can’t wait to read part 2.

    • Clare says:

      Glad you can relate Christine! Eating good portions and staying healthy, too, can be difficult and it’s not unusual to fluctuate in different stages of life! Glad you will be checking back next Monday for Part 2!!!

  • Andi says:

    as long as we are the weight we are supposed to be – it’s all good… 😀

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for your thoughts and comments Andi, and it can be difficult to get to and/or stay at the weight we are supposed to!

  • Karen says:

    Clare, if you have a healthy lifestyle, and you are comfortable and happy in your own skin, that is all that matters. And, you ARE beautiful. You have the best smile ever!

    • Clare says:

      Karen, it is so true – so so important to have a healthy lifestyle – and I’ve been slacking lately with that for sure! As we get older, I think it gets a bit easier to get more comfortable in our own skin. Thanks for your sweet, sweet compliments! I appreciate it! 🙂

  • Bette says:

    AMEN sister!

  • Aishwarya S says:

    I share the same thoughts. I mean I cannot agree more. This is all so true! Why do people have to lecture us about not being skinny? All those points are brilliant. Looking forward to your next piece! 🙂

    • Clare says:

      So glad you have the same thoughts and like my points – they are from personal experience, trust me! So glad you will be stopping back to read Part II next Monday! 🙂

  • T Austin says:

    You a beautiful and strong women. The most important is how you carry yourself – with self-confidence!

    • Clare says:

      Aw, you are too kind! It is important how we carry ourselves and our self-confidence – which isn’t an easy thing for we women! I am getting better about it as I “mature” – but that’s probably because I find as i get older, I don’t care as much what others think of me! 🙂

  • I think society has gotten an unhealthy concept of what is a “good weight” for a woman or what a “good body” looks like. People don’t ususally have a thigh gap that you can drive a semi through, not even thin people. Also, as I remind myself occasionally, even the models and actresses themselves often don’t “look like that”. The special effects makeup for contouring and Photoshopping is over the top these days. Google a picture of your favorite celeb in a swimsuit on vacation and compare it to a magazine cover or publicity piece 😉

    • Clare says:

      Yes, very insightful thoughts and comments, Leanne! So very true! We would love to all be “photoshopped” I’m pretty sure…… society does have an unhealthy misconception of how we women should look!

  • Trish says:

    This is a great post! I think society puts too much emphasis on weight for women. Health and happiness is what counts most!

    • Clare says:

      So true, Trish – society is bad about our appearance and what a healthy look should be…I so agree that health and happiness are most important and thanks for your thoughts!

  • Mary Collins says:

    I have plus-size women in my family and I think they are beautiful. Although I am not a plus -size girl, nor bone thin, I am not of the mindset that food should be the enemy. I love food too. I do think our society has become increasingly obsessed with being thin. The commercials with women who have lost weight running around in skimpy bikinis looks kind of silly. Continue to embrace who you are.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for your thoughts Mary and I appreciate your “being able to relate” to plus-sized woman – lots in my family – myself included for most of my life! We must continue to embrace who we are!

  • Alonda says:

    I can totally relate. God has really been working on me with emotional eating. I still have a bit of a ways to go but at least I recognize it now!

    • Clare says:

      I know how you feel, Alonda! I am an “emotional” eater, too! Thanks for commenting and sharing! I appreciate it! 🙂

  • Preach it girl! I love this post. And yes I’m a plus sized girl who loves food and exercise.

  • The older I get, the more I realize I wasted a lot of skinnier times thinking I was fat. I’m fat. I need to lose weight. I swim, I walk, I bike. I count my calories and do my best to eat healthy, but I’m more than a number on a tag or scale. When we get too caught up in the numbers, we forget the ones that really matter, like Proverbs 31:25!

    • Clare says:

      I love your words “wasted a lot of skinnier times” – Love that!!!! I’m fat, too! I do need to get healthier and exercise more, tho, more than anything! Blessings and thanks for sharing from your heart!

  • I love your honestly in this post. I think a lot of women will be able to relate.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks, Tirralan, trying to be honest – a lot of women walk through this! And hopefully many (I believe there are many) can relate! Come back next Monday for Part II! 🙂

  • Beth says:

    It is so refreshing to know we are all in the same boat. Honestly, everyone battles with this concept, whether its dealing with “fat” issues or “thin” issues. Thank you for reminding me that we are all beautiful no matter what!!!

    • Clare says:

      We women are in the same boat… most women deal with this issue – so true whether they are large or smaller women! We are beautiful – each in our own way for sure! Thanks!

  • Maria Hass says:

    I love your honesty and your transparency. I believe God made us beautiful and wants is to enjoy life- and food. I think we go astray with a combination of unhealthy habits – such as lack of exercise, overly processed foods, “foods” that aren’t even food, and unnecessarily large portions. This is where food turns against us. I don’t believe size matters as much as HEALTH matters! I look forward to reading more of what you have to say on the topic.

  • Clare says:

    Thanks Maria – I try to be “real”! God did make us beautiful and we ALL beautiful in his eyes!!!! Which is so so wonderful – I so agree that much that health is MORE important (believe me – when you get to be my age you will really realize this)!!!!! 🙂 🙂 And also thank you for reminding us of the “processed foods” because I have been so so bad about this these past few years!

  • Well, I guess it’s most important that we are healthy – if we are healthy, who cares about few extra pounds 🙂

  • gail says:

    When are we gonna get together and exercise? LOL

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