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Loyalty… now here’s a word I think we don’t really hear enough about these days.  Is it gone in today’s world?  Not for some of us, and I am hopeful that it will continue on in our hearts and lives as well.


Merriam-Webster defines loyalty as allegiance, commitment, constancy, devotion, faithfulness … and much more.  Frankly, I love the sound of those words!




I grew up in a close-knit Italian American family where we had a strong sense of loyalty to family and friends.  It certainly was not an option, it was a command by my Dad, and it was the way we were raised.  I learned a strong loyalty to those we love and a commitment to them as well…. And I realized later in life that not everyone was raised with that sense of “loyalty”, but I sure was glad I was.


Is it needed into today’s society? I think absolutely yes.  People are running about to and fro like chickens with their heads cut off, doing whatever they can to keep their jobs, hold onto their homes, and emotionally and physically deal with all the challenges of raising a family and keeping close relationships in their lives. And, we are often so caught up in our own “drama”, we overlook the friend that is hurting or family member that needs us to step up to the plate for them.  So… what do you do when that friend or co-worker needs you to take a stand?  What are you going to do?  Or your daughter’s best friend who is being bullied or left out by others in their “circle of friends”?





Although I don’t want to sit here and sound “preachy” as if I do the right thing all the time, I often find myself in the corner with the “underdog”, and I certainly don’t believe in “kicking someone when they are down.”  It is easy to just ignore friends and family when they need you most,  but it’s important to show loyalty, commitment and support at just the right moment…. when people need it most.


My sister, Carol, in the last months of our 95-year old Aunt Irene’s life, would go over to her apartment every day after school (Carol was a school teacher) and manage the hospice care, medicines, appointments,  and whatever else needed attention.  I helped, too; however, I worked later hours than Carol, so she made the daily decisions and managed the medical care as necessary.  It was a very difficult scenario the last months, and Carol was really the epitome of loyalty and commitment to our Aunt Irene.  (Aunt Irene had never married and took us everywhere as kids, all fun outings and daytrips when we were growing up.  In turn, Aunt Irene did the same for our own children, so we were so blessed by her!)  Carol has never regretted showing Aunt Irene the loyalty and devotion she so deserved, not even for a moment.




Sometimes when my girls were teenagers, (that viciousness that only teenage girls sometimes exhibit when they get together in a group) one girl would be left out.   I challenged my girls always to stick up for that friend and do the right thing, remain loyal to their girlfriend who was ‘kicked” to the street” by her other friends.  I try to bring to mind how we want to be treated by others, and I often remember close family and friends who remained loyal.





So what are you going to do when someone needs you to take a stand for them?  Will you do it?  Will you step up to the plate, do the right thing and remain loyal and committed to them?


I really challenge all of us, myself included, to do the right thing, to be loyal and trustworthy in today’s society where it is certainly not the “fashionable” way to go!


Until next time – you know I’ve got your back… and I am counting on you to have mine, too!




 Your faithful friend,



Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • pam miller says:

    As always a wonderful read and so true loyalty a true sign of love and friendship and you are one of those people in my life Clare!! xoxo

  • Deb Wolf says:

    I love this. It’s so true. Loyalty is hard to find. Thanks for the challenge to be loyal and trustworthy. Imagine how it would bless our families, churches, and neighborhoods.

  • Mary Collins says:

    Love this post. We all need to be reminded to meet the challenge to look out for and stand up for the least of these: The forgotten, the hurting, and the neglected people in our everyday lives.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, Mary, I agree, the people who need standing up for, the needy, etc.  Glad you shared your thoughts!

  • I’ve got your back and it’s good to know you’ve got mine. 🙂 I too seem to automatically be drawn to the underdog. I’ve always taught my children never to bully or be unkind or leave someone out. Imagine how awful that feels.  I teach them to stand up for what’s right and for anyone who’s being picked on. Great read!

    • Clare says:

      I’m glad you’ve got my back, Melanie!!!! i appreciate that.  Glad you are teaching your children some wonderful lessons which we all need!  🙂

  • Marvelyne says:

    Loyalty. What a beautiful word – one we need more of! Thank you for the encouragement and reminder!

  • Grace Houle says:

    Loyalty is one of the attributes I definitely look for in a friend. And I am so glad that I found it in my husband. It snowballs into so many other things as well, trustworthy, consistency. Thanks for encouraging others to desire this awesome characteristic.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for your thoughts and comments, Grace, and it’s so nice that you see it first and foremost in your husband!  That makes for a good marriage I am sure.  Yes, this trait snowballs into other characteristics that you mentioned, and so glad to have your perspective on that!

  • I’m glad you’re posting this – the Christ walk is a walk of loyalty (or should be) – to our friends, our family – and most importantly – to God 😀

  • Ally carter says:

    Great post , loyalty can be so underrated these days

  • I love this. Been struggling with peoples lack of loyalty lately. Sharing!

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Cheyenne – it is a struggle!  I have to challenge myself to stay true and do the right thing often times!

  • I love, love, love this post! I was not brought up with loyalty. I grew up in a family where fighting and backstabbing was the norm. I hate to make generalizations, but I always wished to belong to a nice Italian family.  Ya’ll seem so good to each other! Although I didn’t learn this growing up, loyalty is very important to me too and it’s something I will continue to practice in my relationships.

    • Clare says:

      So glad you learned it later on in life, Heather!  And I know that is not always easy because it was ingrained in you!!!!!   I love my family but my parents and some other close family have gone on to be with the Lord…. but they did instill some of the best characteristics in us!

  • Shann Eva says:

    Love this!  Loyalty is so important to me.  It really should be important to everyone. Thanks for sharing this.

  • That’s how I was raised and try hard to instill that same thing into my children today. It’s seems like they get it, but then they will tell me that times are different from when I was younger and sometimes it doesn’t apply.  🙁 Hopefully they are getting it for when they are older.

    Thank you for sharing!

    • Clare says:

      I know how you feel, Suzanne, things seem to change from generation to generation… but I bet your kids have “gotten it” or will get it as you are trying to instill this in them!  Thanks for stopping by!  🙂


  • This is excellent and very needed in today’s world! Loyalty, faithfulness and integrity are so important. Our words matter, but if we don’t follow through with our actions, our words are meaningless. Thank you for this great post!

    • Clare says:

      Glad you like it Michele!  And love those three words, too – loyalty, faithfulness and integrity!  Seem to really go hand in hand!

  • Dijana says:

    Truth! I am having hard time trusting people, believing them and having faith. It’s hard to relax and know people will have your back.  I am surrounding myself only with kind, thoughtful people that I know they will stand by me for very long time.

    I love this post. Thanks for sharing!

    • Clare says:

      It is hard to trust people – so true!  Glad you liked the post and appreciating your stopping in and for sharing your comments!  🙂

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