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More Tidbits From The Heart

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Well, I am back with some more “tidbits” (lessons learned in my life).  I sure hope you can relate!

Give yourself a good old-fashioned CRY when you need it – don’t feel bad about it!  Sometimes we, women, just need a good cry!  And there doesn’t really have to be a reason – could be lots of things.  Let it out, baby, let it out!  You’ll feel relieved and better afterwards.

Howl with laughter – “laughter is the best medicine”!   I try to as much as possible, and it’s still not nearly enough.    I love to laugh ‘til my gut is killing me, and my jaw is sore!  If you don’t have anything to laugh about, rent or go see a funny move or get with your funniest friend who will make you laugh.  I promise, you will feel better once you do!


Laughing woman hearing good news, joke on yellow background


Don’t ever underestimate the value of giving away a smile or walking by a stranger and saying hi.  You’ve heard this before, and I’ll say it again; you may be the only nice person they’ve had in their life that day. 

Teen Volunteer Reads to the Elderly


Woman – no matter your age – get some ME time!  Please do this; write it on your planner, or you may not do it – especially if you are working overtime and/or you have small children.  Take a walk by yourself; get a cup of coffee at your favorite spot, enjoy a good book or take a bubble bath!  But, this will help you recharge!  For sure!

Also be sure to have some “girlfriend” time.  It’s essential for survival – at least it is for me! When I meet my friends, sometimes we got out to lunch, go to a favorite movie together, or go on an afternoon trip to the mall.  When I get back from time with “the girls”, I always feel refreshed, renewed and recharged. 


Portrait Of Mature Female Friends Enjoying Meal At Home


You young working moms:  DON’T FEEL GUILTY!   Goodness, I was a working mom – always – and when my kids were young, I felt guilty – about everything; being away from my kids while working, not spending enough quality time with them, the list goes on and on.  I was always wondering if I was doing a good enough “mothering” job.  And, I especially felt guilty if I broke away for a few hours with a girlfriend for lunch.   NO, NO, NO – don’t feel guilty!  You are doing the best you can – keep up the good job!

Don’t lie – except  about your AGE, or your WEIGHT… those are the only two things that are acceptable to lie about, at least to me.  But beyond that – DON’T LIE!!!!!  Tell the truth!  (Note:  The exception to the age thing is if you are young lady under 21; do not lie about your age.  I know mothers who will thank me for that clarification!)

Quick pick me up – make yourself SMILE!  Yeah, that’s right.  When you are by yourself, smile at least a couple of times for at least 5 seconds each.  Make yourself smile – I mean really smile!!!! It really does make you feel  better, and it adds a little sunshine to your day when you are cranky or just “down in the dumps”.  NOW – don’t do this while you are in the middle of a restaurant eating or at the counter in a supermarket – they might take you away on a stretcher!   But truly, when you are alone, smile for 5 seconds at a time – you’ll start feeling better almost immediately!   Try it! 


Smiling businesswoman looking at camera


OKAY – people who NEVER SMILE – ever – scare the crap out of me!  There, I said it –that’s how I feel.  I mean, you don’t have to go around faking a smile all day long – but those people whom NEVER smile – yikes!  They should be starring in a doom and gloom movie – or maybe the next “Scream 25” movie!  Creeps me out!

Shake hands firmly – I mean don’t break the other person’s HAND!  But shake hands like a real person … enough with the limpy wimpy dead-fish handshake … whoever thought that was a good idea anyway?

Make EYE CONTACT when you are talking one on one with people.  To do anything less makes you look like you lack confidence, are lying or don’t care about the other person. 

Have a great week, and I’ll be hunting for more tidbits!  Until next time…

Your friend ~


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • Great tidbits! 🙂 I especially like the one about crying…I tell my tween and teen daughter, er, frequently, that God invented tears, and that when they cry they release bad chemicals that need to get out anyway. God makes no mistakes, so this is all part of His detox plan! 🙂 Thanks for sharing…stopping by from Christian Women Blogs on FB!

    • Clare says:

      I love that – I love that – bad chemicals that need to get out anyway – that’s probably true! Glad you enjoyed the post! 🙂

  • Leah Sannar says:

    I love the bits about crying and laughing. Those two are so prevalent in my life. I love to laugh, and people always tell me that I’m ‘easily amused’. Well why not be easily amused?? The more you can laugh, the better!! And I often tell my hubby, “I feel a good cry coming on.” And when he wants to know why, I just tell him…”I don’t know, I just feel like I need a good release.” I don’t think he gets it, but his shoulder is always there when I need it. 🙂

    • Clare says:

      Yes – two very opposite things right? Crying and laughing but they both release something that is necessary! Thanks for sharing and for your honesty! Love it! 🙂

  • Bette Childress says:

    Great Monday (and everyday) advise. Good way to start the week!!

  • Suzette says:

    These all seem so logical, yet we forget to do even the simplest one: to smile to ourselves. We get so caught up in our day-to-day hustle and forget to take the time to nurture ourselves too. Thanks for these reminders!

  • Rene D says:

    Very sweet post – I think its SO important to share a smile. Someone told me to a smile is free to give away but could mean the world to the receiver 🙂

  • andi says:

    i don’t think i’ve ever cried….

  • Heather says:

    Great reminders to do all of the things we women tend to push aside. In the name of taking care of others, we neglect ourselves, and end up unable to really take care of others. This is a great, practical list to keep nearby to remind me to keep myself healthy!

    • Clare says:

      Really, really – it’s so easy to forget ourselves especially when we are young mothers. I am glad you like the practical reminders, Heather! Thanks!

  • Dia says:

    I have had some good hard cleansing cries lately. Also me time is soooo important. It’s like they say if you can’t be by yourself you can’t be with anyone else. Great list!

    • Clare says:

      Crying is important for sure! Me time is very very important I think! Thanks Dia – thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  • I like to say crying cleanses the soul, laughter refreshes it!

  • Lily Nguyen says:

    Hi Clare! These are GREAT tips! I think I need to work on the “girl friend” time. I’ve been putting it off for a while… no wonder I’m going insane. 🙂

    • Clare says:

      So glad you liked the “tidbits” Lily! Yes, I would suggest you “schedule” girlfriend time or you won’t do it – I sure hope you get some more time with your friends soon! Blessings!

  • Maria Hass says:

    Love it! Yes! I recently saw one mom criticize that “it was selfish to have ‘me time’ and she didn’t need any”. I was like, “she might be setting herself up for quite a crash!” You’re not doing anyone favors making a martyr of yourself.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, I agree, Maria! No alone time or girlfriend time definitely sets ME up for crash…. and when I was younger I believe it happened more than a few times! Now I know I’m not a martyr! Thanks for sharing! 🙂 🙂

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