Well, I am back with some more “tidbits” (lessons learned in my life). I sure hope you can relate!
Give yourself a good old-fashioned CRY when you need it – don’t feel bad about it! Sometimes we, women, just need a good cry! And there doesn’t really have to be a reason – could be lots of things. Let it out, baby, let it out! You’ll feel relieved and better afterwards.
Howl with laughter – “laughter is the best medicine”! I try to as much as possible, and it’s still not nearly enough. I love to laugh ‘til my gut is killing me, and my jaw is sore! If you don’t have anything to laugh about, rent or go see a funny move or get with your funniest friend who will make you laugh. I promise, you will feel better once you do!
Don’t ever underestimate the value of giving away a smile or walking by a stranger and saying hi. You’ve heard this before, and I’ll say it again; you may be the only nice person they’ve had in their life that day.
Woman – no matter your age – get some ME time! Please do this; write it on your planner, or you may not do it – especially if you are working overtime and/or you have small children. Take a walk by yourself; get a cup of coffee at your favorite spot, enjoy a good book or take a bubble bath! But, this will help you recharge! For sure!
Also be sure to have some “girlfriend” time. It’s essential for survival – at least it is for me! When I meet my friends, sometimes we got out to lunch, go to a favorite movie together, or go on an afternoon trip to the mall. When I get back from time with “the girls”, I always feel refreshed, renewed and recharged.
You young working moms: DON’T FEEL GUILTY! Goodness, I was a working mom – always – and when my kids were young, I felt guilty – about everything; being away from my kids while working, not spending enough quality time with them, the list goes on and on. I was always wondering if I was doing a good enough “mothering” job. And, I especially felt guilty if I broke away for a few hours with a girlfriend for lunch. NO, NO, NO – don’t feel guilty! You are doing the best you can – keep up the good job!
Don’t lie – except about your AGE, or your WEIGHT… those are the only two things that are acceptable to lie about, at least to me. But beyond that – DON’T LIE!!!!! Tell the truth! (Note: The exception to the age thing is if you are young lady under 21; do not lie about your age. I know mothers who will thank me for that clarification!)
Quick pick me up – make yourself SMILE! Yeah, that’s right. When you are by yourself, smile at least a couple of times for at least 5 seconds each. Make yourself smile – I mean really smile!!!! It really does make you feel better, and it adds a little sunshine to your day when you are cranky or just “down in the dumps”. NOW – don’t do this while you are in the middle of a restaurant eating or at the counter in a supermarket – they might take you away on a stretcher! But truly, when you are alone, smile for 5 seconds at a time – you’ll start feeling better almost immediately! Try it!
OKAY – people who NEVER SMILE – ever – scare the crap out of me! There, I said it –that’s how I feel. I mean, you don’t have to go around faking a smile all day long – but those people whom NEVER smile – yikes! They should be starring in a doom and gloom movie – or maybe the next “Scream 25” movie! Creeps me out!
Shake hands firmly – I mean don’t break the other person’s HAND! But shake hands like a real person … enough with the limpy wimpy dead-fish handshake … whoever thought that was a good idea anyway?
Make EYE CONTACT when you are talking one on one with people. To do anything less makes you look like you lack confidence, are lying or don’t care about the other person.
Have a great week, and I’ll be hunting for more tidbits! Until next time…
Your friend ~