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Hi, I am back with some more lessons I have learned in my life.  I refer to them as “tidbits”.  I hope you can relate to these, and maybe there will even be a few “tidbits” that you can pass on to help someone else! 

Young Working WomenWith the possibly of starting a family of your own one day, be on the lookout for careers or jobs that might have flexible schedules …  or earlier working hours, (i.e. teachers, nurses, a job at Google).  I know when I was a young working mother, I got off work after 5:30 p.m. most days, and it was well into dinner time before I picked up the kids and got home.  There was NO flexibility with my job – which made it very difficult most weeks.  Check out careers and companies with the possibly of a flex type schedule or something compatible with a school schedule. 


Mischievous Little Girls


Young Mothers: Please, please get your husbands “broken infrom the beginning.    Get him involved with changing diapers, feedings, cleaning up around the house, and doing chores, or you will be burning a candle at both ends and never get any rest.  Even if you don’t work outside the home, please get your husband to join in with baby care; otherwise, the first time you try to go out and leave the baby with him, he won’t know what to do!

Teach your kids some manners!  You won’t regret it.  Teach them to say please and thank you!  And for Pete’s Sake, unless they are really, really shy – teach them how to talk to an adult. It will serve them well later in life.  These little simple things will help them socially AND in their future careers. 


Multi ethic primary school classroom with teacher.


“You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.”  I’ve had battles with a bad temper in the past, and it took many years and lessons learned to finally “mellow out” a bit.  This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand up for yourself, or that you shouldn’t challenge someone when necessary, but I have learned it truly pays to handle things nicely – even when, frankly, I just don’t feel like it.

I think it’s important to show honor to whom honor is due, but you can’t make me respect you.  Money and status won’t ever buy respect!  (You can buy a lot of things, including someone’s silence, but that still isn’t the same as respect.)  You have to earn it!  

“It takes two to tango!”  There are two sides to every story…. I mean EVERY STORY!  I’ve run my mouth sometimes before I had the whole story… only to regret it later!  So don’t go making yourself crazy after hearing only one side of the store because when you hear “the rest of the story”, it might look completely different!

We can’t be responsible for other people’s actions and reactions.  People have “free will” and are able to choose their own path and make their own decisions once they reach the age of majority.  I can only be responsible for myself and my own actions (as if that isn’t hard enough). 




Thanks for stopping in for a few tidbits … until next time!

Your friend~


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • These are some lovely tips. Making sure dads are fully involved from pre-birth on is so necessary! 🙂

    • Clare says:

      So glad you like the tips, Melanie! Yes, yes – I agree to make sure dads get involved pre-birth, too – it is so necessary! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar… so true! In my career as an attorney where antagonism is the norm, I’ve seen the truth in this time and time again. It’s also a virtue I’m trying to instill in my two daughters. Cheers!

    • Clare says:

      So glad you especially appreciate that “tip” – so hard sometimes and oftentimes I have had to learn the hard way, for sure! Glad you are trying to instill this in your daughters! Blessings! 🙂

  • andi says:

    oh i am so past those working woman days ’bout 30 years ago 😀

  • Kim says:

    OMG…teach your children manners…love it, love it, love it…I teach kindergarten and I cannot believe how little I hear please, thank you and excuse me. The honey/vinegar scenario is something I also share with my kindergartners because you would be surprised how mean some 5-6 year olds can be. I have to teach them how to read and do math, but I think it so much more important to help them become kind, polite, respectful individuals. Love this post.

    • Clare says:

      Thanks for sharing that – you are instilling valuable lessons and manners into these sweet young children at an early age! My kids definitely were no “angels” either at that age but after awhile they caught on to the manners, etc. Good for you!!! Blessings!

  • McKaye says:

    I love posts like these. I think it’s fun to read what people would tell their younger selves or just lessons they’ve learned over time. Great post!

    • Clare says:

      Thanks McKaye – Really I’ve learned a lot over these past years…. life seems to go in “cycles” – good and not so good – valuable lessons I’ve learned along the way… always more to learn. I certainly, of course, hated the lessons I learned the “hard way”!!!! ha ha ha 🙂

  • Farrah says:

    These are all such great lessons! My preceptor was actually talking to me about the career one today + possibility of babies, but since I don’t want kids, it’s not an issue!

  • I LOVE when children have good manners. My son just turned one and I’m starting to say please and thank you ALL THE TIME, even though he can only say momma and dadda. Hopefully we can instill good habits early 🙂 I love your insight!

    • Clare says:

      So cute, Chrissa – sometimes when the children are young, you think maybe they are “not getting” it – mine sure didn’t – ha ha – for a long time – glad you shared your thoughts today!

  • Love how concise and TRUE these tips are! I’m going to try to get my husband involved with the baby once ours is born. I’ve had fears of that a bit, but I am trusting God and will of course have a discussion with my hubby… he might totally surprise me though and be extremely involved 🙂 Looking forward to that!

    • Clare says:

      Thanks Rachel – yes, yes, please oh please get your husband involved immediately! He will probably want to be involved! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • Laura Prater says:

    This is such a great post! I love this,I love the last one especially! So great!

    • Clare says:

      Yes, it’s so so hard to learn that we can’t be responsible for other people’s actions or reactions…. hard one especially if we are parents! So glad you like the post and delighted that you stopped in and shared!

  • These are fantastic tidbits! It’s so important for new wives to regularly share everyday chores with their husbands. It’s good to establish this routine from the very beginning. And these shared responsibilities should continue and expand once children are born. There are just so many wonderful takeaways from this post. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom! 🙂

    • Clare says:

      I agree, Denay. Sharing chores and routines with the husband is so, so important. We women are often so overworked and bogged down with everything! I appreciate your thoughts and comments! 🙂

  • There’s no better testimony than from those who have been there and done that. Your tidbits rock!

  • Paola says:

    It feels like you read my mind! I agree 100% with all your points and think most couples and/or mothers of nowadays just forget most of these points!
    At least now I don’t feel alone! 😀

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