Hi friends – please meet Deborah Ray. Deb is one of the most funny, kind and sincere people I know. No – she’s not famous but I wanted to spotlight her today because Deborah Ray is truly “A Ray of Sunshine” in everyone’s lives. She is truly a “one-gal” comedy show …. and look at her beautiful smile – you can feel her warmth!
To give you a bit of a background, Deb is almost 53 years young and was raised by two loving parents. She shares:
“I have 3 brothers and 2 sisters. I grew up in a 990 square foot house with three bedrooms and one bath! (I know kids reading this now would be falling over!) We were raised with very little money, by a father who taught us respect and the honor of working hard every day. My mother had very stern, but loving hands. Her hands were very artistic not just in the way she would sway the switch or paddle when need be, which was often, but the way she would paint and draw. I have one son, Joseph, who is 21; and yes, thank you, Lord, we lived through his teenage years. He makes me a better person ever day.
I have lost both parents, they are now my guardian angels, and Lord knows I need them. After being married for 23 years, I have been divorced for 5 years. I am soon to be remarried to a man who loves me with all his heart, and if he can handle me, it will be for whatever time the Good Lord gives me. I am telling you all this to let you know my life story did not come without pain, but it has come with a lot of love, forgiveness and laughter.
I have a passion for making smiles, literally for over 38 years! I love to make people smile, so what a better career choice than to literally create them through orthodontics/dentistry. Yes, I get to tinker all day. I have the honor of working with some of the best families, and I do mean “families”. I always say to our patients, “welcome to the family” and at our office, it is truly that way. We truly consider each as family.
When Clare presented this opportunity to me, I was shocked and surprised, but truly honored. There are a lot of very strong and powerful women in the world. I just love people, and I want to make a difference. When I give a hug, it is from the heart. When I act silly or crazy at work, it is because I want the kids to have fun at their appointments and to de-stress and feel loved because they are.
I was raised to give everyone a fair chance, even if they are mean to you because you may never really know what they are going through. What pain is really behind that smile? I like to look into their eyes and read them. I have this amazing gift or “curse” called the “MOMMA GUT”. Now mind you, that is not the size of my middle age belly! That is the place in my stomach that talks to my brain … and it’s not about food. It is a feeling I get when I need to talk special to someone or pull them aside and just give them an extra hug for reassurance. My favorite names to be called are “Mama Deb” or “Mama Ray”. My heart always jumps for joy when I hear those words.
Clare asked me, “how are you always so uplifting and fun?” The answer is, I am not, to be honest. I have my “backsliding moments”, but very few people have seen that. My heart believes that because of some of the things that I have been through and am still going through due to the wonderful experience of being middle-aged, you have a conscious choice to make your own life better, and just maybe in that, too, you have the gift to do that for someone else. Just because of what I am going through, it doesn’t mean someone else isn’t going through something worse or more difficult.”
Well, friends, more to come next Monday, October 26, 2015 for Part II. Please check back for more fun. Join us for Deb’s philosophy on life, how she helps people and how she maintains such a wonderful and giving spirit!
Thanks for stopping by!