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The Joys of Getting Older

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I drag myself out of bed, disheveled … and it takes me an hour to wake up after three cups of coffee just to begin feeling human.  This is how my weekday routine begins:

Depressive woman with breakfast in the morning

I often walk into a room and only seconds later realize that I have no idea why I walked into the room, or what I was trying to accomplish. And, these days, often my back is sore, and my joints creak and make noise.  SIGH …. And, I’m pretty sure I won’t be able to “retire” from work until I’m like 85 years old… Oh, the joys of getting older…. BUT there are a few things that really are well-worth the wait (as if we have any control of turning back the clock)!

For one thing, age has taught me to become more “comfortable in my own skin”.  It has taken many years, but I am more settled  with my lifestyle.  I mean, yes, I would love to lose weight, and I do strive to make my looks, health and wellness a priority.  As much as we would like to turn back the clock, it just isn’t humanly possible.  And truth be told, there are a few years that I am just glad I survived … there is no way I would even consider revisiting a few of those years – even if it was possible!  

Funny nerdy girl

And now, since I am well into midlife:

I can watch TV – WHAT I want, WHEN I want.

I don’t have to “scramble” after work with supper and chores.  I remember that two hour window of time when the kids were little – getting lunches ready for the next day, ironing school uniforms, making sure the kids did their homework – ugh  – I may miss some of the blessings of those childhood years, but that “scramble to get things done” isn’t one of them!

I can do what I want after work and on weekends (which boils down to weekday evenings getting a shower or tub, and laying around like a “slug” in front of the TV hoping another member of my family cooks dinner).

bubble

We eat most of our meals on TV trays instead of at the dinner table.  We don’t have to worry about food smashed all over the table and floor – and spending two hours cleaning up after the meal (although I STILL wear my napkin as a bib regardless of where I am eating).

And yes, most of the time I look forward to a “dull” evening at home … lounging on the couch.  I am happy to go to bed by 9:00 p.m. – and yes, on Fridays, by 8:00 in the evening.  People still “mock” me about it … but hey – there are enough sleep-deprived “freaks” out there that I do not need to be one of them.  Where did you really think the idea of zombies came from?  Sleep deprivation, people … sleep deprivation! 

Sleeping. Who Gave Her Decaf?!?

In the winter time, I am in my jammies by 7:00 p.m. and snuggled up watching TV.  In the summer (daylight savings time), I may wait until 7:30 or 8:00 p.m. to get into my jammies.  One of my friends used to joke with me, “Are going to bed BEFORE it gets dark?!”  And, I would answer, “Oh, yes – yes I am!”  And, please oh please, do not call me past 8:30 at night! 

Woman on the bed with book, coffee and headphones

And God bless sleeping pills – yes, many of us women have “insomnia” as we get older … as if the hot flashes and night sweats were not enough.  I pop a half or a whole one of those puppies and LOVE LOVE LOVE that feeling when I am dozing off to sleep …. And that’s all she wrote.  Friends, I guess you know how I feel about sleep! 

Outings and entertainment.  I love LUNCH out, day trips to the mall, movies, and “early” girls’ nights. I  hardly do “girls’ night” anymore unless we can go out by 6:00 p.m., so I can be back home in my PJ’s by 8:30!!!!!   A “wild” night for me is staying out until 8:45 or 9:00 p.m.! I tell my friends, “I’m like a toddler, I can’t go out two nights in a row; I won’t make it!”

Boring? Maybe. Unexciting? Sometimes. Sleep deprived?  Never.  Boring to me, means I am usually not stuck in crisis – which is a good thing!  I am perfectly content with an unexciting life. There is enough day-to-day drama in the world that I really don’t need to extend it into my life, and I definitely don’t need to extend it into the evening hours!

So friends, give me the quiet, unexciting life because LIFE IS GOOD!

Until next time…. Clare

 

Author
Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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45 Comments

  • Klauss says:

    Definitely the age has its advantages. But watching TV I would you still not recommend 🙂

    • Clare says:

      Age does have at least some advantages, right???? I watch too much TV in the evenings especially when my eyes are just too tired from being on the computer all day to do much of anything else!

  • Paola says:

    Having a simple and calm relaxing time like watching a movie at home is so much nicer after a hard week’s work!

  • candy says:

    I am 56 and yes I have gray hair. Amazing how one so called friend keeps telling me how I need to dye my hair. Personally I think it looks great.

    • Clare says:

      Hey – do your own thing! Good for you! Keep your hair the way you are comfortable! Thanks for sharing, Candy!

  • Britany says:

    I’m still in my twenties and this sounds a lot like my life still! Haha! If I can look forward to this all when I’m older, then maybe I won’t be so afraid of aging!

    • Clare says:

      Too cute, Britany! I am glad you get some simple R&R too! We all need it! Don’t be afraid of aging! 🙂 None of us can escape it – but you surely have a long way to go! 🙂

  • Karin Rambo says:

    I am definitely in the thick of raising a young one, so I’m looking forward to this haha!

  • Rhiannon says:

    I can sooooo relate to the inability of going out late 2 consecutive nights… it was so easy in my teens and twenties! Now I simply love my bed and Netflix too much!

    • Clare says:

      Right, right! I love to truly be in my TV chair early! And love my pajama pants too! 🙂 I think we all have to relax to survive our lives – no matter what our age!

  • For me I can agree about being more comfortable in my own skin. Why does it take 3 cups of coffee to wake us up?? lol If someone could just hand me that first brewed cup before I rolled out of bed I’d be in heaven. coffee is my bff of mornings

    • Clare says:

      Coffee is definitely my best friend, too, Theresa! 🙂 🙂 I am glad you, too, are more comfortable in your skin! Thanks for stopping by!

  • Amy Jones says:

    This is so informative! I never thought of it this way, great perspective!

  • I turn 33 this week and this was a much needed read! All so true!

  • hey, im only 28 and I got to bed sometimes when its still late out! cheers to being comfortable in your own skin! x

    • Clare says:

      Yes, for sure – I hope all women – of all ages can learn to be comfortable in their own skin! P.S. On Sundays – before the workweek begins, sometimes I go to bed at 8:00 P.M.!!!!! 🙂 🙂

  • Tiffany says:

    these are great! good to know there’s something to look forward to. 😉

  • Karen says:

    This sounds so much like me! I love being able to come home and relax and not worrying if homework is done and kids are ready for school tomorrow.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, although those were special days (when the kids were done and racing from soccer fields and scrambling and doing homework) – I like this more “settled” time in my life now!

  • Annie says:

    Love this post! Finally some positives for being a grown up 😉

  • So much truth to this! I love your honesty about being a grown up! I just turned 30 and I was so thrilled to be able to close the chapter of my 20’s. So much time spent trying to impress people. No thank you. Living for myself and my true friends and family, thank you very much!

  • Although I have small kids still and scramble I identify with this much. I enjoy the quiet hours and not always going out.

    • Clare says:

      Yes, yes – I am glad you can enjoy! I know what your life must be like… (raised two girls) and glad you get some quiet time and hours in! Blessings! 🙂

  • Jenn says:

    This is so great! I’m totally the same way. I have a few friends that love going out super late on the weekends and I’m like naa I want to be home by 8:30. As I’ve gotten older I love my routine. I like being in by by 9:15 and thank goodness for black out curtains!!! Love this, thanks for sharing.

    • Clare says:

      I’m glad I am not alone then, Jenn! Thanks for sharing! Glad the blackout curtains work for you – I’ve never tried them! Glad you stopped in! 🙂

  • Maegan Clark says:

    Being older is def easier than being young.

  • Some things I hate about getting older but there are a lot of things I’ve learned because I’ve gotten older too!

    • Clare says:

      Yes, I think wisdom comes from going through our experiences and happenings while we are young… so I hope we are getting wiser! 🙂

  • Nila Duggan says:

    I think every stage of life has it’s benefits and drawbacks. I love being a parent to littles right now, but there are a lot of drawbacks there too! Being older with kids grown sounds lovely but also a little bittersweet. Thanks for the article. 😀

    • Clare says:

      Yes, every stage of my life has certainly had it’s good and bad… and challenges and triumphs – great point! Enjoy your family and your young children, it goes by so quickly! 🙂

  • Hi Clare! I agree that life IS good. Satisfaction with life comes about when we realize that life is comprised of many different chapters. Although each chapter is different than the others, it is no less beautiful. I love that you live life in the moment of now and fully appreciate all the happiness to be experienced in the chapter of life you’re experiencing today. 🙂

    • Clare says:

      Yes, I truly agree, Denay – each chapter in our life and each stage is truly different! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts!

  • So crazy to think that I will be able to do those things some day!

  • Sherry Nappa says:

    Gosh, I think we might be twins! I enjoyed reading your article.

  • Make that triplets!! LOL!

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