I drag myself out of bed, disheveled … and it takes me an hour to wake up after three cups of coffee just to begin feeling human. This is how my weekday routine begins:
I often walk into a room and only seconds later realize that I have no idea why I walked into the room, or what I was trying to accomplish. And, these days, often my back is sore, and my joints creak and make noise. SIGH …. And, I’m pretty sure I won’t be able to “retire” from work until I’m like 85 years old… Oh, the joys of getting older…. BUT there are a few things that really are well-worth the wait (as if we have any control of turning back the clock)!
For one thing, age has taught me to become more “comfortable in my own skin”. It has taken many years, but I am more settled with my lifestyle. I mean, yes, I would love to lose weight, and I do strive to make my looks, health and wellness a priority. As much as we would like to turn back the clock, it just isn’t humanly possible. And truth be told, there are a few years that I am just glad I survived … there is no way I would even consider revisiting a few of those years – even if it was possible!
And now, since I am well into midlife:
I can watch TV – WHAT I want, WHEN I want.
I don’t have to “scramble” after work with supper and chores. I remember that two hour window of time when the kids were little – getting lunches ready for the next day, ironing school uniforms, making sure the kids did their homework – ugh – I may miss some of the blessings of those childhood years, but that “scramble to get things done” isn’t one of them!
I can do what I want after work and on weekends (which boils down to weekday evenings getting a shower or tub, and laying around like a “slug” in front of the TV hoping another member of my family cooks dinner).
We eat most of our meals on TV trays instead of at the dinner table. We don’t have to worry about food smashed all over the table and floor – and spending two hours cleaning up after the meal (although I STILL wear my napkin as a bib regardless of where I am eating).
And yes, most of the time I look forward to a “dull” evening at home … lounging on the couch. I am happy to go to bed by 9:00 p.m. – and yes, on Fridays, by 8:00 in the evening. People still “mock” me about it … but hey – there are enough sleep-deprived “freaks” out there that I do not need to be one of them. Where did you really think the idea of zombies came from? Sleep deprivation, people … sleep deprivation!
In the winter time, I am in my jammies by 7:00 p.m. and snuggled up watching TV. In the summer (daylight savings time), I may wait until 7:30 or 8:00 p.m. to get into my jammies. One of my friends used to joke with me, “Are going to bed BEFORE it gets dark?!” And, I would answer, “Oh, yes – yes I am!” And, please oh please, do not call me past 8:30 at night!
And God bless sleeping pills – yes, many of us women have “insomnia” as we get older … as if the hot flashes and night sweats were not enough. I pop a half or a whole one of those puppies and LOVE LOVE LOVE that feeling when I am dozing off to sleep …. And that’s all she wrote. Friends, I guess you know how I feel about sleep!
Outings and entertainment. I love LUNCH out, day trips to the mall, movies, and “early” girls’ nights. I hardly do “girls’ night” anymore unless we can go out by 6:00 p.m., so I can be back home in my PJ’s by 8:30!!!!! A “wild” night for me is staying out until 8:45 or 9:00 p.m.! I tell my friends, “I’m like a toddler, I can’t go out two nights in a row; I won’t make it!”
Boring? Maybe. Unexciting? Sometimes. Sleep deprived? Never. Boring to me, means I am usually not stuck in crisis – which is a good thing! I am perfectly content with an unexciting life. There is enough day-to-day drama in the world that I really don’t need to extend it into my life, and I definitely don’t need to extend it into the evening hours!
So friends, give me the quiet, unexciting life because LIFE IS GOOD!
Until next time…. Clare