Wisdom and life lessons comes in all shapes and sizes… and from the most unlikely places. I don’t pretend to be the smartest girl on the block… not even close. (My family can vouch for that!) Most days, I can barely remember people’s names that I am well acquainted with, and I find myself looking for my glasses everywhere… just to realize I am wearing them! But … then again, I think this is part of arriving in the wonderful world of “middle age”. But I can tell you this, I have seen one or two things in my 57 years of living (almost 58 now) that I have learned a thing or two about …. And sometimes the lesson was certainly not learned the first go around – sometimes it took 2 or 3 times before I learned anything! I will call these my “tidbits” from my view of the world. You may not agree with some of them, but I bet one or two will get you thinking! I sure hope so….
- Family is everything! If you don’t have blood relatives that you are close to, then your close circle of friends are your family. Cherish them and be good to them. They will not be around forever.
- Your health is everything! Try to take care of it (boy, do I need to come up a notch or two in this area!) Do you ever notice how your whole life changes when you are in a “health crisis”? It is so hard to live day-to-day when you don’t feel well, can’t work and are stressed about money. No doubt, sometimes we wonder if we are ever going to feel “normal” again.
- Be nice to the garbage man, mailman, and other service providers delivering to your home! You may regret it if not. My friend, Tamara, shared one of these life lessons. She was nice to the garbage men and often brought them waters, etc. One day after a terrible storm that landed a 35 foot pine tree on her roof, she cut the tree up herself, and spent the next 12 hours carrying it piece by piece to the front curb, so the city would pick it up. The garbage men saw her the next morning finishing up the job, and made sure she was the first house on their long route. While the rest of the neighbors had to wait until the end of the week, they took her entire tree first think on Monday morning … along with the trash. And often, because I say hello and wave to my mailman, he STILL delivers our mail to us … even if someone’s car is blocking the box.
- Don’t throw people under the bus and blame others behind their back for your mistakes! Do the right thing, be honorable and tell the truth!
- No good thing comes from a 1-800-number! I mean, all I get are bill collector calls from past due medical bills, political calls, and someone trying to sell me something. And recently, I had someone call saying they were from the IRS and actually had me going for a bit …. another one of those phone scams (remember – the IRS will contact you by mail, so do not fall for this!) Ughhhhhh – I hate it. I have stopped answering those calls. If it’s a legitimate and important call, they will leave a message.
- When you go out to eat, be nice to the waitress or waiter and if you don’t have the money to tip them appropriately – stay home! A lot of these young gals and gents are going to college and are working hard to pay their bills! Both my daughters were waitresses and worked hard. Their tips were part of their wages!
- Stand up for yourself! Don’t let people belittle you and talk down to you – take a stand! You will never regret holding your head up high! You know how the saying goes, “You better stand for something, or you will fall for anything.” Besides, if you wait for someone else to stand up for you … chances are you may be waiting a long time.
- Don’t harp on your own opinions! Remember, not everyone cares to hear about your opinions on a topic – if they look disinterested or you are in a group – don’t keep harping on the same topic. Consider keeping your mouth shut and your ears open. God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason.
More pieces and “tidbits” to come. Please don’t hesitate to share your own life lessons. We can all learn from others no matter what our age may be!
Signed, “A little wiser and still learning” …