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Wisdom and life lessons comes in all shapes and sizes… and from the most unlikely places.  I don’t pretend to be the smartest girl on the block… not even close.  (My family can vouch for that!)  Most days, I can barely remember people’s names that I am well acquainted with, and I find myself looking for my glasses everywhere… just to realize I am wearing them!  But … then again, I think this is part of arriving in the wonderful world of “middle age”.  But I can tell you this, I have seen one or two things in my 57 years of living (almost 58 now) that I have learned a thing or two about …. And sometimes the lesson was certainly not learned the first go around – sometimes it took 2 or 3 times before I learned anything!   I will call these my “tidbits” from my view of the world. You may not agree with some of them, but I bet one or two will get you thinking!  I sure hope so….




  • Family is everything! If you don’t have blood relatives that you are close to, then your close circle of friends are your family.   Cherish them and be good to them.  They will not be around forever. 
  • Your health is everything! Try to take care of it (boy, do I need to come up a notch or two in this area!)  Do you ever notice how your whole life changes when you are in a “health crisis”?  It is so hard to live day-to-day when you don’t feel well,  can’t work and are stressed about money.  No doubt, sometimes we wonder if we are ever going to feel “normal” again. 
  • Be nice to the garbage man, mailman, and other service providers delivering to your home! You may regret it if not.  My friend, Tamara, shared one of these life lessons.  She was nice to the garbage men and often brought them waters, etc.   One day after a terrible storm that landed a 35 foot pine tree on her roof, she cut the tree up herself, and spent the next 12 hours carrying it piece by piece to the front curb, so the city would pick it up. The garbage men saw her the next morning finishing up the job, and made sure she was the first house on their long route.  While the rest of the neighbors had to wait until the end of the week, they took her entire tree first think on Monday morning … along with the trash.  And often, because I say hello and wave to my mailman, he STILL delivers our mail to us … even if someone’s car is blocking the box. 
  • Don’t throw people under the bus and blame others behind their back for your mistakes! Do the right thing, be honorable and tell the truth! 
  • No good thing comes from a 1-800-number! I mean, all I get are bill collector calls from past due medical bills, political calls, and someone trying to sell me something.  And recently, I had someone call saying they were from the IRS and actually had me going for a bit …. another one of those phone scams (remember – the IRS will contact you by mail, so do not fall for this!)  Ughhhhhh – I hate it.  I have stopped answering those calls.  If it’s a legitimate and important call, they will leave a message. 
  • When you go out to eat, be nice to the waitress or waiter and if you don’t have the money to tip them appropriately – stay home! A lot of these young gals and gents are going to college and are working hard to pay their bills! Both my daughters were waitresses and worked hard.  Their tips were part of their wages! 
  • Stand up for yourself! Don’t let people belittle you and talk down to you – take a stand! You will never regret holding your head up high!   You know how the saying goes, “You better stand for something, or you will fall for anything.”  Besides, if you wait for someone else to stand up for you … chances are you may be waiting a long time. 
  • Don’t harp on your own opinions! Remember, not everyone cares to hear about your opinions on a topic – if they look disinterested or you are in a group – don’t keep harping on the same topic.  Consider keeping your mouth shut and your ears open.  God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason.




More pieces and “tidbits” to come.  Please don’t hesitate to  share your own life lessons.  We can all learn from others no matter what our age may be!

Signed, “A little wiser and still learning” …


Your Friend,


Clare is a 57-year-old fun loving Italian-American self-proclaimed “Jersey Girl” who believes, “Life ain’t easy street. Life is one of those crazy little city streets, complete with potholes that could swallow your car.” With one foot planted in fun and the other planted firmly in her Christian faith, Clare enjoys making people laugh while helping them navigate life’s “crazy little city streets”. Clare has raised two girls (now grown young adults) with her husband, Michial, Clare is ready to take on the challenges of making new friends through her blog, Life Ain’t Easy Street. With an aim to entertain while addressing topics important to women, Clare’s focus on the positive power of good stories, good friends, inspiring women, and strong faith will have you looking forward to reading the next post. Clare is a freelance writer who lives a real life in Jacksonville Beach, Florida.

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  • T Austin says:

    Ha – your last one made me laugh a little. You see this all the time – especially in the blogging world. An opinion is just that. It’s important to recognize that there will always be people who disagree and that’s ok too!

  • Bette says:

    Awesome words of advise. Thanks for sharing. Always enjoy your work.

  • Mary Collins says:

    Some of these are too funny. Love the your health is everything and no good comes from 1-800 numbers. When you are in a health crisis, you forget about everything else (I’ve been there). 1-800 numbers drive me nuts!

    • Clare says:

      I have been there too with the health crisis – and we realize that one I think more and more as we age! (I’m middle age now) – I hate 1-800 numbers!!!!! For sure! Thanks, Mary! 🙂

  • Maria Hass says:

    These are wonderful! Thank you for the tips. We need to remember that we reap what we sow! Sometimes it takes years to see that harvest, but it comes for sure. We’d be wise to pick up on these tidbits and spare us a harvest of trouble!

    • Clare says:

      I really like that you reflected that sometimes it takes years to see the harvest… so so true and that’s a wonderful reminder to all of us! Thanks for your thoughts – and blessings! 🙂

  • Andi says:

    they say that we learn a LOT as we get older (56 😀 )

    • Clare says:

      Cute cute Andi…. (I’m almost 58!) – but now I’m starting to “forget” everything I’ve learned over the years!!!! Ha ha ha !!!!! 🙂

  • Martha Kate says:

    This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your heart! xo MK

  • Sasha says:

    Oh. AMEN on that 1-800 thing!

  • Terri says:

    when we least expect it, we learn new things… I learn a new thing every day

  • It’s funny how much different I am today than I was ten years ago, and even more from 20 years ago when I thought I was really all grown up. I have learned so much. I used to think 40 was old, but I’m really just getting started. I have a 5 year old at 43, almost 44. I need to remember I want to be around for a long time for her! I’ve started getting healthy again after two years of being basically couch ridden. It was a long road, and I’m so glad to be able to get up and get moving again.

    • Clare says:

      Jennifer – Wow Wow! That’s great…. well I am middle age and I need to get shape because – I will be a first time grandmother in a couple months and am thrilled! But, yes, I feel the same way – each decade brought so many changes, attitudes and lots and lots of life’s “little lessons” along the way – like it or not! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • Heather says:

    I love this post! This is great!! Loved the garbage man story!!

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